Legatus Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 I met this girl online, exactly two weeks ago. I sent her a message and not only she responded but also replied with even longer messages and questions. After one week, which we spent on talking every day, it turned out we have a lot in common, same level of craziness. Even though she's beautiful I was more drawn to the fact that she admitted she's not so confident as we often generalise about beautiful women. Thursday a week an a half ago I had her number so I sent a text asking if she would be interested in meeting. I knew it was soon but I wanted to see if this is really going anywhere and with the level of conversations we had online it would be difficult to do it later. She complimented me many times and I returned the favour, she kept saying how my messages make her smile and everyone's asking what is the reason. I was the same. Like a pair of teenagers to be honest. Great feeling! We met Friday and she was quite nervous and shy. I was supposed to go there for couple of hours as I had a lot of work at home but I ended up coming home around midnight. We had nice walk, a coffee then we went for a walk again and enjoyed a sunset on the bench by the river. I took some photos of her and then we took some together. At one point when we were going through the photos and we kissed. Shocking but most pleasant. I wouldn't normally do that but she didn't pull away either. Actually afterwords she was the one who initiated it. I went home and next day we exchanged some messages as usual, the only bad thing she mentioned was that it went to fast but she enjoyed the day and wants to do it again. On Sunday I was going abroad for couple of days so I sent her another message and went away. I tried to contact her while abroad but she was silent. Last Wednesday I got a text saying she's sorry and she's busy and didn't want to text me while I'm abroad. Okay so I waited till last Thursday when I got home and sent her message online saying I am home and can't wait to speak to her, I've got lots of stories to tell and photos to show. No response. The website wasn't working for more than a day so yesterday I just sent a text saying hope she's having a great day off etc. Still no response (well I have no reception at home Normally I wouldn't be bothered that much, but we did have a connection, she said she would be honest with me since she can see I am a bit different with her and not afraid to say what I want/need/feel. I told her a while ago that I don't like playing games and I'm not interested in someone who is. She agreed she's the same. But now it does look like a game.. If there was something wrong at that meeting - I think she would never message me again (or spend the whole day with me). Even if kissing would be too fast (she wouldn't start it again many times after the first one)... I knew me going abroad may be a little bit of a pause but not total ignorance. So what do you guys think? Game? Or just testing my patience? I think one of the most things I regret is wasting my Friday but it went so well it's hard to imagine what could have happened. I'm not gonna message her again for now and see what comes out of it but just think it's weird. She is very intelligent and reserved, hence even if I believed only half of things she said it was still a lot. Besides I prefer one way or another. If the meeting didn't meet her expectation after all, then she would cut the cord straight after Friday. She didn't which points me to the fact that something else happened... Well, just wanted to say the story.. all I can do is wait and go on. Everything is a learning experience after all.. but deep down I hope she answers. After all it's hard to find someone as crazy as myself...
Gaeta Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Unfortunately it's very common with online dating. I would suggest you don't rely so much on text, they don't always go through, pick up the phone and call. If she doesn't answer leave a voice mail, that way you know she got it and the ball is in her court. A lot of people say they don't play games and are the first to pull a fade away on you. Go figure. I have stopped asking myself the *whys*. I just move on to next. 1
jrh1524 Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 You wouldn't be worried if you had another woman lined up. She's multi dating, it's what most women do. Also, don't show your hand so early (I.e. I don't like playing games). Keep it lite and fun. 1
Gaeta Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 You wouldn't be worried if you had another woman lined up. She's multi dating, it's what most women do. Also, don't show your hand so early (I.e. I don't like playing games). Keep it lite and fun. When I was online I multidated and never ignored a communication because of it. Multi dating doesn't mean we lose all sense of consideration. She's doing the fade away due to a lack of back spine.
deathandtaxes Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 OP, don't waste any more time on her. She knows you're interested. Go No Contact ASAP. 1
HappyLove Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Sorry, a lot of times the ones who say they don't play games are the ones who do. She could have at least given the courtesy of saying she's not interested. That's how it goes online!
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