MissNoname Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 My bf and I argue when were apart but not when we spend time together. Anybody who has been in the same situation and how did u fix it? Pleas help! I want to stop the arguments. Thank you.
veggirl Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 What do you mean apart? Are you long distance? What do you argue about?
Author MissNoname Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 What do you mean apart? Are you long distance? What do you argue about? Apart meaning were not spending time together. We argue when we talk on the phone. We argue when we text. We argue about simple things. We talk then he brings up something about the past nothing major then we argue. When we spend time together, we dont argue. We can spend days not arguing at all.
BlueIris Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Maybe its communication problems and you need to see each other to read each other correctly. Maybe you’re frustrated to be apart. Maybe when you’re together you’re smitten by chemistry and it’s only with distance that you actually see and hear what the other person is like and you don’t like it. Those are the reasons I can think of. 1
Author MissNoname Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 Maybe its communication problems and you need to see each other to read each other correctly. Maybe you’re frustrated to be apart. Maybe when you’re together you’re smitten by chemistry and it’s only with distance that you actually see and hear what the other person is like and you don’t like it. Those are the reasons I can think of. Any ideas how to fix it?
Eivuwan Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Any ideas how to fix it? It's hard to know the solution when we don't understand the cause of the problem.
BlueIris Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 (edited) It's hard to know the solution when we don't understand the cause of the problem. True. You'll have to slow down and notice what's going on when you're together and when you're apart. Those are three very different possibilities. The easiest to analyze is the last- do you annoy each other and have reason to be annoyed when you're apart? Look at the texts objectively. Is that the real him and/or real you and are there good reasons to be annoyed? On the other possibilities, think about how you feel when you're apart. If you changed what you said and how you said it, would the conversations go better? If he changed what and how? Edited April 26, 2014 by BlueIris
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