Mimsicles Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 I have been seeing my boyfriend for 6 months now, and up until recently we had a fantastic relationship. I am so in love with him and think he may be the one. I could not fault anything that he did. He was open and honest about everything and we got on so well. He had a text mesage the other day off a girl named Sophie as he was reading the message in bed and I saw. I have no objections to him having female friends at all so I thought absolutely nothing of it... A couple of nights later we were deep in conversation and he asked me how long was it, before i met him, that i'd last had sex. I answered him honestly and asked him the same. He said it was one month before we got together, so being nosey I asked who with? He said his ex girlfriend, but they werent together at the time they were just sleeping together, he said her name was Sophie. My brain went into overdrive and I remembered the text on his phone, so I became a little uncomfortable with the fact he was still texting this ex. I said nothing at the time because I didn't want to cause an argument as I had to leave for work. Whilst in work he text me to say that he was going to meet a friend that owed him money so he'd text me later. I replied asking who this friend was as he'd never mentioned this before....He said it was his ex, Sophie! But that he wasn't going to cheat on me so not to worry!!! I was gobsmacked that he found this behaviour to be acceptable! Im pretty sure if i was meeting up with an ex over coffee, more importantly, an ex I had been sleeping with not all that long ago, I'm sure he'd have felt uncomfortable with it. Am i being unreasonable that I find this behaviour wrong, or am I just over sensitive? I appreciate that he told me about her, but they are obviously still texting and meeting up and it makes me feel sick to my stomach... Any suggestions what I should do?
soccerrprp Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 You're not being unreasonable to be alarmed. He needs to know what your expectations are and inform him of what the boundaries should be. Many people either don't care or are unaware that they are doing anything "wrong" or uncomfortable for their SO. Talk to him.
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