Author Targetlock Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 sadly that could be true, and it is annoying because she started the whole thing. I will keep on trying and see what happens.
Author Targetlock Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Well i came home to see she had tried to call me and left a message, so maybe there is life in this yet! 1
Author Targetlock Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 the call was through skype but sadly she wasn't online will try again tomorrow. will tell what happens.
angel.eyes Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 It's good that she's making an effort to maintain the connection. It means she's still interested. 2
Author Targetlock Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 yeah hope so, we keep ending up missing each other at the moment, so will keep on trying and hoping for the best.
Valen Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Targetlock, you sound like a really nice lad, I hope you find a nice girl someday. 4
Author Targetlock Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 Update: I've got news and good news it seems. so i hadn't heard from her in a little while so I went back on POF and lo behold a message was waiting for me, she wants to meet so we've been messaging about where and when. Originally he wanted to sort me out a bike for cycling or something! I haven't rode a bike in ages which I mentioned so we are going to meet somewhere and get to know each other first. maybe this will actually happen and not fall apart like I keep thinking it will. 1
Teraskas Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 (edited) Update: I've got news and good news it seems. so i hadn't heard from her in a little while so I went back on POF and lo behold a message was waiting for me, she wants to meet so we've been messaging about where and when. Originally he wanted to sort me out a bike for cycling or something! I haven't rode a bike in ages which I mentioned so we are going to meet somewhere and get to know each other first. maybe this will actually happen and not fall apart like I keep thinking it will. That's good to hear. Keep up the postive attitude. Even if this won't lead to anything, it'll still be a learning experience. Honestly, I wish I had your luck given some of the similarities between us, lol. From personal experience I find it ridiculous that only out of 2 pages of potential women on POF (from Belgium) NONE have even bothered to respond. :/ Edited May 1, 2014 by Teraskas 1
angel.eyes Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Fantastic! Just stay positive and try to meet soon. Update: I've got news and good news it seems. so i hadn't heard from her in a little while so I went back on POF and lo behold a message was waiting for me, she wants to meet so we've been messaging about where and when. Originally he wanted to sort me out a bike for cycling or something! I haven't rode a bike in ages which I mentioned so we are going to meet somewhere and get to know each other first. maybe this will actually happen and not fall apart like I keep thinking it will. 1
Author Targetlock Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 Teraskas: well usually my luck is just as bad as yours and I'm being cautious with this as this has happened before, only to fall apart. so yeah you never know you may suddenly have the same bit of luck as me bad luck ha got to change at some point. Angel.Eyes: thank you and hopefully this might work out. until it is actually happening and a date and a place has been set, I keep thinking this won't happen, like with previous attempts.
angel.eyes Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 You want to be in a place mentally where you are positive and optimistic, but have no expectations. Then you bring a positive vibe to your interactions, but aren't overly disappointed if things don't pan out. Negativity (which I don't sense in you despite past disappointments) really drives people away. I love the energy you have. You're doing a great job of managing the frustrations of dating. 1
Author Targetlock Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 Yeah i try and bounce back, i can be a bit a yo-yo at this sort of thing lol, got to try and remain optimistic because you never know what or who coming around the next corner, also remembering i am not the only one having problems like this.
angel.eyes Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 Yeah. It's a lot harder than one would think. Just hang in there and keep trying like you are. You'll get a girlfriend, and it will be well worth the effort you put in. 1
Author Targetlock Posted May 2, 2014 Author Posted May 2, 2014 yeah i like to think in the end it is worth the effort, just seems to be taking a longer time than for most people, especially with work and my social circle where I'm the only single person. 1
angel.eyes Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 I suspect you're a bit shy, which might be contributing. Are you engaging in activities that bring you in contact with new people? If not, take a dance class, pick up a sport, or do something else that interests you while exposing you to a range of new people, including women.
Author Targetlock Posted May 2, 2014 Author Posted May 2, 2014 yes i am a bit shy and reserved, mainly due to my sometimes poor confidence and being a bit of class nerd when i was younger. i also have a mild learning condition which can make me a bit socially awkward sometimes. Update: so i got chatting last night and we have arranged a meet-up, were meeting for fish and chips at a local restaurant for dinner in the evening! still being rather cautious about this though, like when we were arranging where and when she did ask about the date is can we kiss? which i thought was slightly odd but then again I've never properly kissed a girl my response was: ' depends how well the date goes ' i thought was the best answer i could give. maybe i'm just not used to this kind of interest before.
regine_phalange Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 yes i am a bit shy and reserved, mainly due to my sometimes poor confidence and being a bit of class nerd when i was younger. i also have a mild learning condition which can make me a bit socially awkward sometimes. Update: so i got chatting last night and we have arranged a meet-up, were meeting for fish and chips at a local restaurant for dinner in the evening! still being rather cautious about this though, like when we were arranging where and when she did ask about the date is can we kiss? which i thought was slightly odd but then again I've never properly kissed a girl my response was: ' depends how well the date goes ' i thought was the best answer i could give. maybe i'm just not used to this kind of interest before. Hey! Don't panic! Your answer was appropriate. Don't worry about the kiss, if you do want to kiss her at the date. Every person has their own personal style in kissing. Kissing is also different between different people. No one can guess whether it's your first or 100th time. Good luck!
angel.eyes Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 Yes, it's weird to ask you about kissing before the date. I like your answer! Don't worry about kissing experience. It comes naturally. It really does. Just turn your head slightly so that you don't bump noses. And if it's a little awkward, just make a joke. When is the date?
Author Targetlock Posted May 2, 2014 Author Posted May 2, 2014 monday, we're meeting in the evening for dinner
Frank2thepoint Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Update: so i got chatting last night and we have arranged a meet-up, were meeting for fish and chips at a local restaurant for dinner in the evening! still being rather cautious about this though, like when we were arranging where and when she did ask about the date is can we kiss? which i thought was slightly odd but then again I've never properly kissed a girl my response was: ' depends how well the date goes ' i thought was the best answer i could give. maybe i'm just not used to this kind of interest before. She's already asking about kissing, before the date even happening? She's an enthusiastic little nymph. You gave a good reply, it'll keep her on her toes and she'll probably be nervous trying to impress you. Don't worry, you'll do good. 1
Author Targetlock Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 hope so, i'm a bit rusty at this sort of thing but practice makes perfect i guess
Author Targetlock Posted May 3, 2014 Author Posted May 3, 2014 Update: Well after messaging for a bit, we've changed it to the local Indian restaurant which should be a lot nicer being a bit old school I offered to pay and she has warned me she does have a tomato allergy which i think is nice that she is comfortable enough to tell me. she did ask me about kissing again! so i told her best to wait and see what happens, hopefully she is just eager or something. 1
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