Mary Oak Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 So, I just found out that the girl my ex is seeing( who used to be one of my best friends btw) was asked how she could do this (date) my ex since she was supposedly my friend. Her reply was because I abused her!!!!! What do I do with that information!!!
Keenly Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Move on with your life. Ignore it. It will never make you happy to worry like this. 3
StringsAttached Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Move on with your life. Ignore it. It will never make you happy to worry like this. This, this, this.
CarrieT Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 You do nothing but remove these toxic people from your life. 3
Justletgo Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Defend your image for the people you really care about, because if you don't people will think it is true. And for the others, just let it go.
Author Mary Oak Posted April 25, 2014 Author Posted April 25, 2014 Well, the person I heard it from just said it is not true and the bitch is lying. So I guess I just let it go? I want to know if my ex knows she said it. Does it even matter?
tlegend Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Defend your image for the people you really care about, because if you don't people will think it is true. And for the others, just let it go. Your true friends will also know bull**** from the truth.
CarrieT Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 I want to know if my ex knows she said it. He is an Ex for a reason. What do you think it would matter to him? Does it even matter? It does not matter. 1
pteromom Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 This isn't shocking. She doesn't want to feel guilty about dating your ex. So she's rationalized it in her mind by making you the bad guy. Move on... these people aren't worth your energy. 6
Author Mary Oak Posted April 26, 2014 Author Posted April 26, 2014 I am really upset about all this. I want to break contact so bad to talk to the ex to see if she had anything to do with this. I know no good would come from that because she would probably ignore me anyway. That is a horrible accusation to make. I believed even though we broke up that she would stand up for me. There is no reason for her not to. She is the one that left me after seven years. I am the one that was hurt. I just don't get it. I thought that this situation could not hurt any worse ... I was wrong. Really down. Really want to talk to her.
CarrieT Posted April 26, 2014 Posted April 26, 2014 Really want to talk to her. Why? Why? Why? You already said you KNOW it is a bad idea. Don't rip off the band-aid to just pick at the wound! It won't heal that way and you know it...
Author Mary Oak Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 I have done nothing, said nothing to anyone, and just let things be. I even saw the mutal friend who had heard this things about me this weekend, and I just say beside her and chatting like I knew nothing of it. I am not going to hide as I have nothing to hide. It has been tougher not to say something to my ex since I receive work emails from her from time to time. But, in fact, I have been even more over the top professional and it is obvious that we have nothing but a co-worker relationship. I still question in my mind if she knows what her gf said and is condoning it, because that would really hurt. But, I have also told myself that at this point, I will never find out the full truth. And so it goes...
learning_slowly Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 You know they're right. Don't give her the satisfaction of getting to you.
Recommended Posts