yorkie Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 well i thought i would post this to maybe get advice or if it helps others with what they are going through then either way please feel free to respond. well 30th Aug last year i split with my long term partner and mother of my 2 great kids! we were together just short of 13 years! at the time i was obviously devastated did the crying and begging thing for 2 n half months i know not good! not good at all tbh. at the beginning i thought it was gigs i don't think it is now i don't honestly know. i think she was having an affair she still denies this! but i asked her twice at the time and she just laughed at me! she worked nights! i remember her telling me to grow some balls and move on. she left me and the kids in the house and moved into her parents. i then started to date and met a lovely woman who tbh is my female best friend! i have been seeing her 5 months now! my ex when i told her i had met someone said well since i am dating she will and she said she was dating a guy from her work and she has moved in with him March this year she said she has only been seeing him since december but i think it was whilst with me but that doesnt matter now. i have my kids and my house and im dating a woman who cares for me. ths last 8 months have been the hardest time of my life! and i have been through alot and if i told you all what i had been through in my life and come through the other side i think you would raise a glass of your fav tipple to me. but this break up literally nearly killed me. i considered suicide i considered giving everything even my kids up. im so glad i didnt though as i am only now starting to feel that indifference towards my ex. or should i say the ex i used to know! i remember telling my dad who was divorced that me and my ex had split up 8 months back and his reaction was oh no! now i have never had a relationship with my dad where i could talk to him and that oh no! yeah was a bad oh no! lol every day now i still think of my ex or the person i once knew, i have all the same feelings as i did when i first broke up with her but it does get easier! every single person on this site who suffers from a break up i truly feel for us all! because the pain is unbearable even now 8 months on but you know what it does get better it does change you as a person. the roller coaster hasnt finished yet though and still i have really bad days! but i know i am starting to see the light! saying that i thought i had seen the light many times before during the 8 months BU. all i wanted to say is it does get better. and if my ex did return and i now really hope she doesn't because that roller coaster ride would carry on longer! i think its alot harder to cope with when you have kids as if i didnt with my ex i would of gone NC but cos i do i have to go LC. yet i still think on a daily basis about her but i dont beat myself up anymore, it wasnt my fault she cheated it was hers! it wasnt my fault there i said it. the person i knew has died and the person who my ex is now is a stranger. a stranger who hates me i dont know why as it was her who left! what im trying to say folks yes it gets better and although im with someone now yes it could be a rebound believe me we have had our ups and downs but im content at the moment at how things are moving on! just thought id share if anyone has any thoughts on how im coping or share you thoughts around the 8 month time or how you felt at this time please do! my work mates say im doing really well and its still early blah blah blah but how can 8 months be early, i dont understand? anyhow its there in the open now! thanks
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