rocketboy9 Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 I have a woman friend that I have been very close with for about 8 years. There has always been mutual attraction but nothing ever happened because her life is very complicated. Those things include a husband, children, elderly parents, cancer and more. Her kids are all now young adults and 2 of them have had kids while very young. She continues to support them financially and otherwise like constantly baby sitting her 2 grand kids (keep in mind my friend is like 40). As long as I have known her, her marriage has been on the rocks. She used to say they were like room mates. Though I wanted to be with her, I never did anything because it could make even more complicated. So I left it alone and was just her friend. That being said she finally separated from him about 3 years ago. She got her own place and lives apart from him. The big issue is they are still married. There is not even divorce proceedings happening. So they are in limbo. Prior to the winter coming we went out a few times as in dates. We had a great time but than the winter came and that was that. She lives an hour a way and this past winter we got hammered so I have not seen her at this point since like November. Up until about a month ago we were very chummy always talking on the phone and via email. Every time I attempt to see her its almost impossible coordinating my schedule with hers. She spends crazy amounts of time driving back and forth to her daughters to help take care of her kids. And she has a full time professional job as well. With all of that I am sensing as of late that something has changed. She is not calling and the emails have pretty much stopped. The last time she even replied she was telling me how her life is crazy and she has no time, blah, blah. I am starting to think this friendship/relationship whatever it is, is finished. In my past relationships I have always noticed a definite moment when the relationship changed. At that point its over. Many times myself and the other person would continue to hang on for a while but its over. Something changed. Who knows what that something is but its there just the same. I have also been thinking about this - as her life is in limbo and she is technically still married where does this leave me? Even if I did start dating her where would this go? Maybe I am over reacting. I dont know. But thats what I am sensing.
lucy_in_disguise Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Sorry to hear. It sounds like you were a good friend to her and it must be painful to lose that. Some people never become ready for something more.
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