STM206 Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 My last breakup was my first breakup. I have this lingering fear that when the time does come and I meet someone else, the same thing will happen... I'll get left at some point for someone else. I hate the idea of investing 4 more years into someone for them to turn around and pull the same thing. The pain as we all know hits you at the core and makes you question everything about what love really is. Does anyone else feel this way? If so, those who have overcome these thoughts - how do you do it?
Joangel Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I use to think it was cruel when people told me most relationships are bound to end. This logic is somewhat true, you either get married or you don't and can't marry everybody. When I thought about it I realized the qualities I want in a husband are many. In boyfriend, not too much. I started to accept some people are just what they are, a friend, a boyfriend etc...and nothing more. I began to feel less pressure and regret thinking this way. Sometimes a person will make a good enough boyfriend/girlfriend and that's good enough for now. Look towards your wants and needs now. Maybe right now you want a summer romance work towards that. If if continues good, if not then that's all it was meant to be. 1
learning_slowly Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I don't think you do anything specifically. Let's just say, love will come and go in everybody's life. If you stay with the same person you met at 16, you would a) both be very tolerant and b) be missing out on meeting people with other ideas etc. I would never think about settling down before 30 if I was to live my life again. But we are all different, so my advice may not be perfect for you.
Jiivy Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 My first love left me for someone else, we were together 7 years and engaged to be married this year...and she really wanted to enjoy that "summer of her life" by seeing other people. I see it as incredibly hard, to have invested so much and lost it all - then I think to myself, "self, look at who you've become. You're an absolute catch. Some day someone's going to walk in to your life and make you see what you were missing with your first. You could never see it, because she was all that you knew."
roger136913 Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 I thought I would be scared to try again, then said no more. Being 48 and separated after 28 years of living and 24 married together. I don't think I want anyone else to be Honest. I am a very hard person to get to know, It takes along time to earn my trust. And Yes I am still in Love with my Wife!. Call me a door matt call me stupid, call me anything but please make some funny as I need a Laugh also. It's just my choice that's all
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