missouribabe Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 Since a lot of girls wait to have sex if it's a guy they really like, do you think it's the same for men? Say you're making out on the first or second date - if they asked for sex, does that mean they probably don't respect you or want a relationship with you? I had known this guy from out of town who was visiting for a short while. We never dated in the past, but on one occassion that he was in town, we hung out a coupld times and then ended up hooking up, and he wanted to have sex. We didn't at first, but I wonder if he just was into me only for sex or if he was rushing because of the circumstances, him being out of town and all.
Midwest guy Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 Originally posted by missouribabe Since a lot of girls wait to have sex if it's a guy they really like, do you think it's the same for men? Say you're making out on the first or second date - if they asked for sex, does that mean they probably don't respect you or want a relationship with you? I had known this guy from out of town who was visiting for a short while. We never dated in the past, but on one occassion that he was in town, we hung out a coupld times and then ended up hooking up, and he wanted to have sex. We didn't at first, but I wonder if he just was into me only for sex or if he was rushing because of the circumstances, him being out of town and all. Your from Missouri too?
alphamale Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 Let me lay it on the line here MISSOURIBABE: A dude who really likes a woman, esp an older dude (>30) will ususally wait to have sex with her. but we all have a limit, i mean like a year is ridiculous, but 2 or 3 months is acceptable. But it depends on many factors. The above prob would not apply to 2 people just looking for fun or a casual thing. If both are looking for a real gawd-dang relationship with all the trimmings and they both dig each other they will wait. My own personal experience is that if a woman lets me into her bed fairly quickly then yes i do lose respect for her caause she is too "easy" and it turns into just a sex thing for me.
FolderWife Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 The world may never know. If a man is WILLING to wait for you, then he digs you. I reckon you could put him off as long as you can stand....and see if he waits as a test.
Hund1976 Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 I think a couple could have sex on the first night they meet and wind up getting married and staying together until they die. However a lot of guys are just looking for some quick action. So if you give it up too soon then you run the risk that they were just using you for some booty. But there is really no way to know what their intentions are until after the fact. For examply if I really liked a girl and we wound up alone on the first date and things started getting hot and heavy and she seemed into it I would most likely have sex with her. I don't think I'd think any less of her for it, but deep down I would have probably preferred that we waited longer. I know that's kind of hypocritical but I know how my mind works and if I'm with a hot girl I like and the hormones start raging I know I'm not going to turn her down. So overall my advice would be to wait to have sex, you don't have to wait super long but at least a few weeks and a few dates so you know the guy is there for you and not the booty.
alphamale Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 Originally posted by Hund1976 So overall my advice would be to wait to have sex, you don't have to wait super long but at least a few weeks and a few dates so you know the guy is there for you and not the booty. I will let u in on a little devious trick I use sometimes, HUND1976. Say I'm on the 2nd or 3rd date with some cute little number, let's call her Cindy. So I take Cindy out for a nice dinner and movie and after we go back to her crib. She invites me in and one thing leads to another and we start making out and drinking wine. After about 30 minutes I'll get up and say "well, Cindy, it's been great but I really gotta get going cause if I stay I don't think I'll be able to contain myself, I'll give u a call next week and we'll get together." he he heh. works almost everytime cause then i'm almost assured of pu$$y on the next date or the one after. he he eheh eh eh heh. heheh he he eh heh heh eh heh heh
clynn Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 Yup, alphamale. and you think what about this kind of girl,?? Hmmm, sucker. Thanks, see you later. Or would it really make any difference anyhow, alphamale? If she had your number you might just move on as to begin with you weren't lookign for too much anyhow. And at the end of the day, as the gal who sleeps with this guy, I don't feel so awful. I too have had fun, have been treated nice. If he is nasty after that's one thing. But ending is ending that's not a disaster. And if its gonna go further its because of a number of other factors...no?
Midwest guy Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 I say you should wait about 6 months before having sex. Of course Ive never had a gf 'although trying badly right now to get one"
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