latergater Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 (edited) Read my previous posts. I have been through hell and back and come out on the other end -- happy -- happy -- happy as can BE! I am in a serious relationship, loving work, loving life and guess who texts me out of the blue the other night .. wanting to chat it up? Then calling me everyday -- and when I finally pick up the phone from some random number (600-004?) he tells me that he knows I've missed him and asks me if I want to meet on his next business trip to talk and have 'some fun?' AS IFFFFFFFFF. So ladies, yep, what everyone says is right on. They always come back -- appear when you are at your HEIGHT of HAPPINESS. He told me that his wife threatened him after finding out about me (umm, and me finding out about HER - that she was still in the picture -- well, never mind all that) .. she told him that if he ever spoke to me again, she would DIVORCE HIM. So, what action does Mr. Fabulous take? He calls me and asks me to meet him secretly in some far away destination and charge it to his credit card but keep my mouth shut? This-- mind you -- after ONE year of not a single darn word - not a single text nor email nor message in a bottle or a darn APOLOGY and still to this very day -- NO APOLOGY -- NOTHING??? He said we could talk about everything that happened when we were "in bed together" -- on the trip I would be scheduling no less -- at the Masters request. He may be a Senior Executive and climbed the corporate ladder to no end -- but I don't work for his sorry a-- and I don't take orders from a-holes. He has serious BALLS! Umm, NO THANKS BUT -- thanks for the lovely offer jerk! FINALLY -- GOODBYE LOSER!!!!! Edited April 25, 2014 by latergater 11
thummper Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Guess it's true, huh? Hell hath no fury.....etc. Sounds like a typical corporate a-hole, completely stuck on himself and thinking everyone else should be, too. Sounds like you're glad to be shed of him. 1
A.Moscote Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Ugh tricking you with a random number after being ignored on his own number, good job at that btw, what a stubborn selfish. And the way he asked you just shows how he really put his own satisfaction above others. Make me feel sad for his wife, can't imagine what a headache it is to tolerate that kind of person. Anyway please be careful and mindful of his tricks and charms (oh he must have them) especially when you're feeling down and vulnerable. We will never know the twist of events lying ahead of us. You know how when we talk about our past mistakes and then we wish that we would've done better. Maybe this is your chance to prove that. That you are now much wiser and conscientious to avoid an affair. Treasure what you have right now, you seems to be doing great. Remember how hard it was to get to this point. 2
BetrayedH Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Ugh tricking you with a random number after being ignored on his own number, good job at that btw, what a stubborn selfish. And the way he asked you just shows how he really put his own satisfaction above others. Make me feel sad for his wife, can't imagine what a headache it is to tolerate that kind of person. Anyway please be careful and mindful of his tricks and charms (oh he must have them) especially when you're feeling down and vulnerable. We will never know the twist of events lying ahead of us. You know how when we talk about our past mistakes and then we wish that we would've done better. Maybe this is your chance to prove that. That you are now much wiser and conscientious to avoid an affair. Treasure what you have right now, you seems to be doing great. Remember how hard it was to get to this point. Yep, and feel free to tell his wife. It would be nice for her to be free of him, too. 7
Author latergater Posted April 30, 2014 Author Posted April 30, 2014 Ugh tricking you with a random number after being ignored on his own number, good job at that btw, what a stubborn selfish. And the way he asked you just shows how he really put his own satisfaction above others. Make me feel sad for his wife, can't imagine what a headache it is to tolerate that kind of person. Anyway please be careful and mindful of his tricks and charms (oh he must have them) especially when you're feeling down and vulnerable. We will never know the twist of events lying ahead of us. You know how when we talk about our past mistakes and then we wish that we would've done better. Maybe this is your chance to prove that. That you are now much wiser and conscientious to avoid an affair. Treasure what you have right now, you seems to be doing great. Remember how hard it was to get to this point. Thanks all. It's been very hard because for the first few days he was relentless...calling and texting me nonstop!! I guess I kinof liked the attention from him and felt empowered. But he has since backed off..and once again I do feel rejected. I don't think he ever cared about me..he just didn't want me to be with anyone else. I've been a bit of a wreck this week. Honestly. 1
Davey L Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Yep, and feel free to tell his wife. It would be nice for her to be free of him, too. Probably ought to be the subject of a separate discussion - but is it the right thing for an OM/OW to tell BH/BW?
BetrayedH Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Probably ought to be the subject of a separate discussion - but is it the right thing for an OM/OW to tell BH/BW? I think it is. Never too late to start doing the right thing. 2
Goodbye Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Yes, they do resurface. My exMM used alternate means when he'd want to get hold of me. I see the pattern that they let things "calm down" at home so the W doesn't have suspicions. Yours waited a year, now his wife probably thinks things are good again so he feels vindicated and sneaks off. What a pig. I think you should let his wife know that he contacted you wanting to take a sexcation but you told him to take a hike. 4
snappytomcat Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Yes, they do resurface. My exMM used alternate means when he'd want to get hold of me. I see the pattern that they let things "calm down" at home so the W doesn't have suspicions. Yours waited a year, now his wife probably thinks things are good again so he feels vindicated and sneaks off. What a pig. I think you should let his wife know that he contacted you wanting to take a sexcation but you told him to take a hike. yes,i also think she should tell his wife,if my xws,contacted his xow,i would want to know,and hiss ass would be out the window so fast he wouldn't even know what hit him,and this he knows to be true 2
Bryanp Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 Concentrate on your serious relationship that you now have and be open and honest with him about this jerk. 1
A.Moscote Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 You have done well, it's not easy to deny someone who we have had a close relationship with, someone who actually knows our weakness and vulnerability. Keep on showing and growing that strength and perseverance. Don't feel rejected, surely for us you weren't so, not in any sense. You know why he backed off; he gave up. He is a beaten teddy bear who can't reach the honey pot. It really should be the other way around, you should feel victorious (wow), or I mean feel positive about it. It's not worth it to contemplate about his caring on you because obviously we know he can't even properly care someone who chose to tolerate him (oh poor lady). I guess I kinof liked the attention from him and felt empowered... It's good that you are aware of that about yourself. You've learn something from this experience, and you share it with us, thanks for that. 1
Author latergater Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 You're obviously still obsessed with this guy, and he knows it, but you don't want to acknowledge it. I don't blame him one little bit for throwing out some bait to one of his old mistresses to see if he could get just one more easy **** for old times sake. I mean obviously you got no problem spreading 'em when the spirit moves you. Thanks for the feedback, you don't get to call me a whore. You don't even know me. But, you're clearly dealing with some anger issues ...may want to focus those emotions elsewhere or in a more positive manner. 3
bllough10 Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Always blows by mind that things happen this way. Good for you sticking to your guns.
Author latergater Posted May 1, 2014 Author Posted May 1, 2014 Always blows by mind that things happen this way. Good for you sticking to your guns. As thanks. Yes, I wasn't just some whore looking to screw some dude ..I was in love with this guy and I had known him for 30 years. Enough said. Its been put to rest! 2
Oberfeldwebel Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 I hope that you see now that this relationship was never about you, but about him and his ego. He is the Senior Executive (or whatever his title) and he is entitled to a wife, mistress and a ONS from time to time on a business trip. You need to call his wife and let her know that he is up to his old tricks. Also you need to let your husband know what is going on as well. I think that you may want to enter counseling to determine why you feel the need for attention from another man, other than your husband. 1
Author latergater Posted May 12, 2014 Author Posted May 12, 2014 I hope that you see now that this relationship was never about you, but about him and his ego. He is the Senior Executive (or whatever his title) and he is entitled to a wife, mistress and a ONS from time to time on a business trip. You need to call his wife and let her know that he is up to his old tricks. Also you need to let your husband know what is going on as well. I think that you may want to enter counseling to determine why you feel the need for attention from another man, other than your husband. I'm not married.
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