What differentiates an emotional affair from a close friendship

[TalesoftheWireMonkey]

Would you and the women be willing to have the same conversations with their husbands?

 

that would never happen. I think you are missing the taciturn nature of these men. Here would be an example of trying something like that:

 

So imagine I run into Sally my co-worker and Bob her husband out somewhere.

Me: Hey Bob, Been doin' alright?

 

Bob: Yep

 

Me: Sally here tells me you two went to see that new romantic comedy all the women are so tickled with?

 

Bob: Yep

 

Me: Sally says she thought the male character was a lot like you in the way he demonstrated his passion for his lover.

 

Bob: Dunno.

 

long uncomfortable silence

 

Me: Sally says she wishes you would get in touch with your inner passions for her the way that main character did towards the end of the movie, you know the scene where he broke down crying while they were out horseback riding and he told the girl how he always had wanted a pony?

Bob stares at me as if I've grown a third eye.

 

Bob: Don't remember that part.

 

another long silence

 

Me: Well anyway that was a cool car the main female character had wasn't that a '72 Corvette?

 

Bob: No, that was a '73! I had a '79 for a little while but I let my idiot cousin drive it and he knocked out the front panel. I tried to bondo it back on but it wouldn't hold. I ended up trading it for a four-wheeler and an over and under shotgun.

 

And thus it would go, if I got that much out of him. By far usually when I've met my chatty co-workers mates she is the one that does all the talking, often maneuvering around where she is standing between us with the husband silent and looking off in some other direction while she and I form a conversing pair.

[SoleMate]

I suspect purplesorrow meant to say (bold is my proposed correction):

 

Would you and the women be willing to have the same conversations with their husbands present?

 

Monkey, what causes you to ask this question? Is there something nagging at you?

[TalesoftheWireMonkey]

Solemate,

I said Sally was there! ha,ha

Unfortunately that's usually the way it goes.

 

Nagging at me? If you had seen my other posts I suppose I am having something of an emotional affair currently with a married co-worker?

 

This is a new term for me (I'm not much of a psycho-babble reader) so I wanted to explore exactly what people mean when they say it and exactly what the problem is?

 

I thought it would be an interesting topic for everyone. I like to post generic ideas that lead to a lot of discussion.