joystickd Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 I've learned through out my whole dating/relationship thing is that you have to stay on some level positive. I will admit I have some rough points and do some things I shouldn't but I stay positive that I will find that special someone. Hell my dad laughed at me today because he feels like I will be along because I want to date outside my race. He thinks I should stick with Black women. He is like you will never find the one you want. You will be like your uncle and die alone. I use to explain my reason why I feel the way I feel but now it's like there is no need to. I spent up until I was 25 intensely loyal to women the same race as me and I ended up struggling. I couldn't get a date or nothing. I felt like I was undateable. I was depressed about my situation. I sat back and thought of different things I could do and to get them to like me. After a while I was like f**k it. I saw me really sticking to one group made me struggle. In a way I was too different for them. I don't hate them or feel I am better than them. It was just I felt like I was too different to be seen as compatible. I finally after I got to that point I found women that liked me. I will admit it's still a struggle. I attribute a large part of that to me being not as proactive about dating as I should be. I'm not going to do like most and point the finger at the opposite sex. It's only a waste of time. I quit caring about what my family thought and what others thought of my preferences and opinions of dating. I focused on being the best person I can be and really keeping that hope that I will find someone. Only YOU can know what is best for you and letting other people question what you know is best for you only hurts you. People close to you want what they want for you. Some people have good intentions, but they are just not good for you. I will admit that things can get you down and honestly I will admit I wouldn't be the way I am and feel the ways I feel about certain things if early on the bad experiences didn't happen. It's easy to say move on and brush it off but they do have an effect on you. The best thing is to just stay positive throughout the struggles. It's hard to but what man/woman you know want's a gf/bf that is bitter or has a negative view of the opposite sex. As a person you may never say it but your actions on some level will show it. I'm running on 2 hours of sleep. I hope this makes sense.
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