Bindi33 Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 Okay so I have this FWB that I have been seeing for roughly 7 months. We hang out a few times a week. Sometimes just at our houses and sometimes we go for drinks and/or dinner first. Usually go dutch, but he's taken me out on a few nice dinners as well. All of my friends think that he likes me or that we are basically dating but I disagree. Neither one of us wants to be in a relationship with the other. Though I do get confused by him sometimes. For example, if he knows I have a date with someone else, he acts passive-aggressively about it. And one time he came over to hook up but I was so drunk from the bars that I spent the whole night throwing up and he stayed to take care of me the whole night. Anyways, I like the way things are. I like him and have some feelings for him, but I could never see him as a serious boyfriend. And I can't help but wonder what he's thinking sometimes?
Chocolat Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 And I can't help but wonder what he's thinking sometimes? Well, you could invest in a magic ball or perhaps go to a psychic or... wait for it... ASK HIM. 4
KatZee Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 Well that's the thing with these FWB situations. Eventually someone is going to fall for someone. In this case, it COULD be him. On the other hand, men are territorial. He may not want to date you seriously, but he IS having sex with you, and he surely doesn't want to hear about you dating, and potentially hooking up with someone else. One of my guy friends told me this exact same thing. He didn't want the girl, but he didn't want anyone else to have the girl either. Weird ego thing.
ASG Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 Well that's the thing with these FWB situations. Eventually someone is going to fall for someone. In this case, it COULD be him. On the other hand, men are territorial. He may not want to date you seriously, but he IS having sex with you, and he surely doesn't want to hear about you dating, and potentially hooking up with someone else. One of my guy friends told me this exact same thing. He didn't want the girl, but he didn't want anyone else to have the girl either. Weird ego thing. I think this is it. One of my FWB and I talk fairly regularly about other people we might be seeing. I always get a bit of a jealous vibe off him. A couple of years ago, we met up and were at a party and we were talking about the guy we were sharing a hotel room with and how hot he was and either he or his friend mentioned maybe me or my friend would hook up with him. I already had and my friend said so. My FWB made a couple of snide comments that told me he was a bit jealous. If I was seeing someone as regularly as you're seeing your FWB, I would never tell them about other dates. And I also would not want to know until I absolutely had to (as in, things were developing and our arrangement would have to cease). The FWB I've been seeing recently has a girl friend staying over this weekend and she will be sleeping in his bed. With him. I don't think they're gonna sleep together, but if they did, I would not want to know. it could be that he developed stronger feelings... But you'll need to ask him about that, not us!
Phantom888 Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 FWB is often messy with undefined boundaries. Sure you are adults and you can have sex without commitment or even a relationship. But it gets confusing over time because we are really not programmed to be ****ing our friends. 2
stillafool Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 Well that's the thing with these FWB situations. Eventually someone is going to fall for someone. In this case, it COULD be him. On the other hand, men are territorial. He may not want to date you seriously, but he IS having sex with you, and he surely doesn't want to hear about you dating, and potentially hooking up with someone else. One of my guy friends told me this exact same thing. He didn't want the girl, but he didn't want anyone else to have the girl either. Weird ego thing. You're absolutely correct. The only reason they care is because they don't want sloppy seconds. When its a FWB relationship you don't know who else they are sleeping with. I guess it's none of your business.
kaylan Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 Okay so I have this FWB that I have been seeing for roughly 7 months. We hang out a few times a week. Sometimes just at our houses and sometimes we go for drinks and/or dinner first. Usually go dutch, but he's taken me out on a few nice dinners as well. All of my friends think that he likes me or that we are basically dating but I disagree. Neither one of us wants to be in a relationship with the other. Though I do get confused by him sometimes. For example, if he knows I have a date with someone else, he acts passive-aggressively about it. And one time he came over to hook up but I was so drunk from the bars that I spent the whole night throwing up and he stayed to take care of me the whole night. Anyways, I like the way things are. I like him and have some feelings for him, but I could never see him as a serious boyfriend. And I can't help but wonder what he's thinking sometimes? Lol, youre catching relationship feelings whether you can admit it to yourself or not. Thats why youre wondering about his thoughts. Who are you kidding? If this wasnt the case, you wouldnt highlight the nice things he does for you.
mammasita Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 FWB is always messy. Someone always catches feelings, someone always gets hurt. 1
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