OhNoNotAgain Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 So I went on a first date last week, and she was nice and everything, but I can't help to think I'd feel more if I was genuinely interested. She wants to go out again this weekend, but I don't think I'm into it. I don't want to hurt her feelings, and I don't know what to say to her. I had my heart broken recently,so the last thing I want to do us hurt someone's feelings. What should I say / do?
FitChick Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 If you had your heart broken recently, that is your excuse. And a good reason not to date anyone now. 1
Author OhNoNotAgain Posted April 24, 2014 Author Posted April 24, 2014 If you had your heart broken recently, that is your excuse. And a good reason not to date anyone now. Ya, I guess I should sit here and obsess over my ex for months instead of getting back out there. My breakup has nothing to do with me not being interested someone.
d0nnivain Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 The sooner you tell her the less it will hurt. Making it about your break up & not being ready to date is a kind way of letting her down gently.
Author OhNoNotAgain Posted April 24, 2014 Author Posted April 24, 2014 Any last minute advice for me here? I just feel so horrible, I don't want to hurt her feelings.
slizl Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 (edited) Ya, I guess I should sit here and obsess over my ex for months instead of getting back out there. My breakup has nothing to do with me not being interested someone. Of course it doesn't, BUT it will make sense to the new girl and let her down easy... I thought I was ready to date again, but I realized I am not ready right now... I recently broke up with my ex, and I need some "me" time right now... I realized that I am not over my ex, I'm really sorry... I mean, pick one. Edited April 24, 2014 by slizl
Cpt Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 Any last minute advice for me here? I just feel so horrible, I don't want to hurt her feelings. Just go out with her one more time man. If during the date you enjoy yourself, proceed, but if you're not enjoying yourself, well just be honest with her that you would love her friendship but you're not really feeling it since you had your heart broken recently.
Author OhNoNotAgain Posted April 24, 2014 Author Posted April 24, 2014 Just go out with her one more time man. If during the date you enjoy yourself, proceed, but if you're not enjoying yourself, well just be honest with her that you would love her friendship but you're not really feeling it since you had your heart broken recently. Ya but I don't want to lead her on either......
Ruby Slippers Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 "I had fun with you, but I don't feel a romantic connection." 3
GoreSP Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Of course it doesn't, BUT it will make sense to the new girl and let her down easy... I thought I was ready to date again, but I realized I am not ready right now... I recently broke up with my ex, and I need some "me" time right now... I realized that I am not over my ex, I'm really sorry... I mean, pick one. No, no and no. OP just tell her that you don't feel like you two are a good match. No need to put yourself in a situation where you will meet her somewhere while you're out with your new squeeze - two weeks after telling her this bull****. 1
J21 Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 "I had a nice time, but I didn't quite feel that spark." 1
gaius Posted April 25, 2014 Posted April 25, 2014 Ignore her and let her mind fill in the blanks with whatever she wants. You got back together with your ex, hit by a bus, phone died. The only polite thing to do.
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