daddy87 Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 Been dating this girl just over a month, everything have been good since the day we started to talk. We literally speak everyday and probable see each other once a week. But recently she been abit off with me and i think its because i gave her too much attention and been abit to clingy to the situation like i wanted her to be my girlfriend( bad mistake i know) its because its been awhile since ive met someone i get on with so well. So i want to know is whats the best thing for me to do right now? if i ignore her would she think i lost interest? Or if i carry on talking to her will it back fire even more?
MidwestUSA Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 This is the girl who pretty much spelled out for you that you were on the path to being a rebound. You should have backed off when she told you that. My guess is that she doesn't even see the two of you as 'dating'; it's clear she's keeping her options open. Back way off and see what happens. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 At a minimum, give her a chance to contact you once in a while.
Fondue Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 The only way to not give someone too much attention is when your personal attention is already taken. You have to either A) find hobbies/interests/friends that you put time and effort into. Or B) date multiple women and split you attention until you find the one that you really want to pursue. This usually takes more than a few dates per person. Also, don't live with your phone. And know how to cut someone off. If someone texts you, or you feel the need to text. Keep it to a few long-ish texts and that's it. END texts politely but with a way that says, "we're done communicating for the day." Something like, "anyway, hope the rest of your day is awesome. Enjoy the sun!" That way the conversation ends and you don't smother the person. Most of the time if I went on a date with a girl, I would text them back the following afternoon and followup on something that was discussed, wish them a fun workday and a great evening. Don't need continue more than that. They'll reply with something nice/courteous and also wish you a fun afternoon. Get back to them a few days later with finalized date plans, as in call (or text, I guess) and say: "I got two tickets to this show at 8:30 on Thursday. I'd like to meet at 7 at this other place for a quick bite to eat and head over to the show. You down?" All she has to do is say yes. THen meet at that place that day and have a good time. You're not giving her too much attention, but you're clearly interested in her. You also have firm plans, so you look like a guy who takes care of business. WOmen like a man who is decisive and doesn't ask HER what YOU GUYS should do. AT least, in the initial stages. 1
Author daddy87 Posted April 24, 2014 Author Posted April 24, 2014 Thank you for you help everyone. I do believe leave it for abit will help either way. But will it be too late for me trying to fix it now? i do like this girl alot and i believe she feels the same but she have told me she aint ready for any commitment though. I feel so blind for this situation as usually when i go on a date with ohter woman i wont be how ive been with this girl and i feel like ive screwed everything up:(
Shaun-Dro Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 (edited) Been dating this girl just over a month, everything have been good since the day we started to talk. We literally speak everyday and probable see each other once a week. But recently she been abit off with me and i think its because i gave her too much attention and been abit to clingy to the situation like i wanted her to be my girlfriend( bad mistake i know) its because its been awhile since ive met someone i get on with so well. So i want to know is whats the best thing for me to do right now? if i ignore her would she think i lost interest? Or if i carry on talking to her will it back fire even more? I pretty much agree with what everyone else in here states. Maybe you should take regard to that. Edited April 24, 2014 by Shaun-Dro error
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