maturityassets Posted April 24, 2014 Posted April 24, 2014 OP I know you can't afford therapy at the moment but if you go to college or something they should have a counseling center. But if that isn't an option either you have to start training your body. Try some mindful meditation when you start getting anxious. Put your phone in another room and put some meditation music in your room and do it for 10 minutes. Takes some time to get use to but eventually after a while you'll start calming down. I was essentially like this with my first love. I wasn't much of a texter, sporadic at best. But I would call every night to communicate openely. But your partner will get annoyed as well because you are bound to be anxious when something happens like when she says she'll call later but forgets to. That was the killer for me! I would get upset and tell her why couldn't she just let me know that she wasn't going to call. I had a mild case of codependency and love addiction and it really does get in the way of an otherwise great relationship. You start getting viewed as annoying to the point they can't handle it. I learned a lot from that break up and now i'm hardly anxious with my current girlfriend. Took some work though. Therapy, reading books like "codependency for dummies", meditation, changing my outlook on the world and on relationships and the importance of distinguishing you and your partner as distinct individuals 2
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