gaius Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 Is there any way he's just looking for the right woman? :laugh::laugh: If you're not into casual sex I'd probably take a pass. He's already half-way got you in bed if your mind is thinking that irrationally. 1
Conners Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 What does the bolded have to do with things? Whatever either of you looks like, your comment is not very pretty. Beyond that, it's not clear what you are suggesting -- that if he's willing to have sex and string along Girl A while dating Girl B it's ok as long as Girl A is not attractive (in your opinion)? Sounds like a booty call. Chocolat, while the comment about her might not be very heartwarming I certainly think it is relevant. The other girl is obviously older and not as attractive and maybe that influenced the guys decision to not want a relationship with her. Girls need to stop thinking in fairytale mode that guys are going to fall in love with personality alone.
Chocolat Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 "What are you up to tonight?" doesn't sound like an offer for a date. It sounds like a friendly "hey, want to hang out and have sex?" to me. Fixed that for you.
Chocolat Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 Chocolat, while the comment about her might not be very heartwarming I certainly think it is relevant. The other girl is obviously older and not as attractive and maybe that influenced the guys decision to not want a relationship with her. Girls need to stop thinking in fairytale mode that guys are going to fall in love with personality alone. Sorry, but I don't see anything obvious about it. In fact, when I hear someone stating that a woman she's competing with on some level is less attractive, I take it with a huge grain of salt. Women are often quick to put down a competitor's looks, call her a slut, etc. I think this assessment speaks more to the insecurity/character of the person posting than anything else. Attraction is largely subjective. What one man (or woman) finds attractive, another may not. Just look at the infinite number of posts in these forums about whether men prefer women who are lean and athletic or thick and curvy or whatever. There is a huge spectrum of attractiveness and, speaking as an attractive woman myself, while I might not understand why another woman is perceived as attractive, I am not foolish enough to think this means everyone shares my perspective. Finally, I do think that high quality men prize character and personality in addition to attraction. This is not a fairy tale but a reality for many women and men. The type of men who can fall in love based on attraction alone are not men most women are interested in. 5
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