sybo24 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Hi. I'm on match and hopefully will have some success with finding me right there is a guy in there who is gorgeous and 14 years younger than me. He has been honest saying he wants to meet for dates and exclusive bedroom fun. Now I know what's on offer and to be honest at the moment that's a good offer. Is it bad to meet a guy for fun if I am completely aware of the situation. Who's using who!
Zahara Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Hi. I'm on match and hopefully will have some success with finding me right there is a guy in there who is gorgeous and 14 years younger than me. He has been honest saying he wants to meet for dates and exclusive bedroom fun. Now I know what's on offer and to be honest at the moment that's a good offer. Is it bad to meet a guy for fun if I am completely aware of the situation. Who's using who! If both people are on board with it then the who is using whom doesn't come to play because both of you have agreed to what the terms are in your "fun" arrangement. The thing is, you have to be absolutely sure you can handle this type of arrangement because most times one catches feelings, and most likely it is going to be you. And also be aware that you are probably not the only woman he will be sleeping and having fun with. With that, be safe when engaging in sex.
ses Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Mutual consent is imperative in this arrangement, as in all relationships. I don't see any problem with a FWB except for the potential of feelings developing, as Zahara has already stated. Don't go into the FWB expecting more because that's unfair on his part. Manage your expectations, and if feelings arise, have a serious talk or cut ties. Be safe and have fun.
Phantom888 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 No one is using anyone as long as both adults agree. I do not agree with any FWB arrangements because sex is so intimate for me that I can't have sex without emotional attachment. I'm a guy! I have been offered FWB arrangements several times and I declined all of them. I do not want sex-only "friendships". Plus I don't use condoms, so it would be very dangerous to do FWB without protection. As long as you are sure it's sex only, no one should be obligated to move further. BUT keep in mind, once you go that route, you might be giving up opportunities of real great relationships with great men. There is a good number of guys out there who do not want to start a relationship with women who has a history of FWBs. There is a stigma that these women are promiscuous, unfaithful, desperate and indiscriminate sexually. That's hard to accept for many men, so be careful. IMHO.
waiting4u Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Well, you are both "using" each other, if the situation works - which it rarely does. I think women are wired to get attached to the man they are sleeping with. I would only do it if your willpower is strong and you don't have to see him anywhere socially - at work, at the gym, etc. You want to lay down an exit strategy before it begins.
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