Lyn77 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 How much time do you think is ENOUGH when dating someone as an adult? I'm not referring to 20 year olds who have nothing better to do, I am referring to adults in our thirties and beyond. Of course there are different methods to communicate: Skype, text, phone, email (who emails anymore? LOL) going on dates in person, etc... For me, although very busy with a career & family, when I am really fond of a guy and want to get to know him, I enjoy spending as much time as possible. Without smothering him of course. At least in person once a week. But it seems that some guys don't like to make time or spend their time. I haven't dated much since my 20's and having children, but maybe older guys don't chase as much? I guess if a guy is into the woman, he will do whatever necessary to be with her.
KathyM Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Once a week is probably the norm for a new dating relationship, with one or two phone calls in between. It increases as the relationship develops. I think it's a good idea to have a well integrated life and not make your romantic interest your whole life. I think some women (and some men) make the mistake of too much contact right from the start, and that builds a false intimacy and puts too much pressure on the dating partner and the relationship. Taking it slow is a good thing. It allows the relationship to develop naturally, and gives the partner some breathing room, and makes him realize you have other things going on in your life, which is a good thing. 2
Poppygoodwill Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 your last line says it all. if you are wondering if someone is 'into you' becuase you don't spend a lot of time together, the answer is probably not. Barring extreme circumstances like little kids in teh house or a job with lots of travel, he should be doing all he can to spend time with you, one way or another. if not, there's a reason and it's usually: he just doesn't want to. 1
mammasita Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 My BF and I are in our 30's both with full time jobs and physical custody of our children (I have a 13 yo and he has a 5 yo). We live about 20 minutes apart. We see eachother on the weekends, usually for the whole weekend (depending on whats going on with the kids). The weeks are pretty hectic between kids (homework, showers, sleep....babysitters?) and work to try to go out on dates - however we are in constant contact every day. I have no problem with our situation - It seems to work for us. 1
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