georgehll Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 I was on my second date with a girl. No kissing, etc on the first. For the second date she's the one who called me and arranged it early so she could prepare for her finals. We stayed out all day and ended up in a movie. We shared popcorn and treats. Near the end of the movie I reached for her hand, she seemed unsure, but did NOT pull away and let me hold it for a while. She seemed nervous, and I asked if it was okay and she nodded and I said I want to take this slow. After movie we went for a coffee, and then went for dinner and had a good time, lots of laughing. At the end of the night, I tell her I'm interested in taking things slow with her. She says that she does not want to send the wrong impression and she's not looking to date right now. Soul is knifed through the heart at this point. Several hours later she texts me saying that she had a fun and memorable night. I'm confused with the signals this girl sent throughout the night.
Strength in Healing Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 She said she doesn't want to send the wrong signals, and is not looking to date right now. That is very clear. The fun and memorable night stuff doesn't stack up in comparison. Keep your head up brother, there is never a shortage...
KathyM Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 So she goes on two dates with you, and then tells you she's not interested in dating. Are we talking about a teenager here? This is pretty silly.
Author georgehll Posted April 22, 2014 Author Posted April 22, 2014 So she goes on two dates with you, and then tells you she's not interested in dating. Are we talking about a teenager here? This is pretty silly. She's Asian, so possibly . I asked my Asian friends about this, and they said she's probably inexperienced or scared and I should contact her after a few days and take it slowly. They're all full of anecdotal evidence of people they know where they slapped like this and then make it work. Is this common? Or am I reaching for straws.
Author georgehll Posted April 22, 2014 Author Posted April 22, 2014 No new input? I'm getting so many different responses from friends with 180 degree responses, I think I need to just try direct approach again.
J21 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 (edited) She's Asian, so possibly . I asked my Asian friends about this, and they said she's probably inexperienced or scared and I should contact her after a few days and take it slowly. They're all full of anecdotal evidence of people they know where they slapped like this and then make it work. Is this common? Or am I reaching for straws. Being asian has nothing to do with this. I don't like how you refer to Asians as what is bolded up top. What are you implying by these "people"? Would you call a bunch of whites, african americans, or hispanics "those people"? You didn't answer the other person's question if you were a teenager. She told you she wasn't looking to date--That's as loud and clear it's going to get. She texted she had a fun time because she was being polite and not an ungrateful date. Don't get your hopes up or read into something that isn't there. Edited April 22, 2014 by J21
sagetalk Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 She says that she does not want to send the wrong impression and she's not looking to date right now. Nothing to see here, move along, move along. Go find a girl that is looking to date you.
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