The Game Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 My girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago. It was all of the sudden out of the blue. Things we were going great then I was told to stop calling her. So I did basically. I tried to get a hold of her about a week ago. I left a message with her roommate. I more or less just wanted to know why or what I did. A couple days ago she called back, but I missed the call. I was suprised but I called her back to see why she called. She acted as if we were friends and nothing had ever happened between us. I tried to bring up like why she didn't want me to call her. She kept changing the subject. So I kinda left it alone. We talked for at least an hour. I asked her about the time I came in where she worked and she completely ignored me. She said she never saw me. Which I really didn't believe but I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. A couple days later I had to pick something up at her work, but when I saw her I didn't talk, didn't think she wanted to, because of what had happened the previous day. She asked me why I ignored her. I told her it was because i didn't think she wanted talk. Apparently she did, (I guess I was supposed to magically know that). Then she wanted to know uf I could go out last night. She was goin with a friend to this club the 3 of us always went to. I said I'd show up and I did. It was weird at first. She didn't really talk much. Then she kinda warmed up and I thought she was interested. When my ex was gone for a couple min. I asked her friend what the deal was. She said my ex told her I was "too possessive" as in I got pissed when she talked to guy friends. The funny thing is that when we were together, everyone that knew us was saying the opposite that she was always up my butt about what I was doing or other girls talking to me. We actually had an argument about other girls talking to me. She got really pissed about it. I said those were girls at work I had to talk to. I said she had nothing to worry about, and she didn't. I would have never gone for anyone else. I also specifically told her that if she talks to other guys, that are friends I had no problems with that. So what my ex said made no sense at all. Me possessive? It had been the other way around. Her friend also said she was talking to some other guy that was a possibility, and that our age difference was becoming an issue. I'm 21 she's 24. I didn't think that was a big deal. The other weird thing was when a group of our friends was just sitting down at a table my ex was doin all the stuff she did when she was flirting with me before we got together. No idea why, but she was. The night went on I got all liquored up and couple of my friends showed up. I figured if my ex was just gonna play games, I'd let her play by herself. So I figured I'd check out the girls that were there. She was hangin out with all kinds of guys, buyin them drinks lookin over her shoulder to see if I was looking. I let her be. She wasn't my girl anymore so I wasn't gonna make a deal out of it. Even though inside I was kinda jealous. Towards the end of the night the one guy she had been hangin and dancin with ditched her. I was just chillin on the side of the dance floor. Just tired and didn't feel like doin anything. She comes over to me and pulls me on the floor. She had the look in her eyes I recognized. I think she kinda wanted me still. Not sure of course, but had that feeling. I was glad inside that she came over, but wasn't gonna act like it. I kind shrugged her off and said "what do you want?" She turned away, then I grabbed her and said I'd dance. We had a good time for awhile and then some other guy cut in. I didn't really care. I was tired and wanted to go home at that point. I wondered if I played it wrong by trying to ignore her when she wanted me on the floor. Basically, I'd love to get back together with her, and I'm still in lover with her. I'm kinda friends with this girl that hung out with us alot at the club we went to. Is talking to her a bad idea? Any ideas of how to handle all this. I have no idea how to play this. Girls never make any frickin sense.
bluechocolate Posted February 5, 2005 Posted February 5, 2005 I have no idea how to play this. You didn't mention how long you two were going out for, regardless, I wouldn't "play" in her little game at all. It all sounds terribly high-school. Also, sounds to me like she's stringing you along & "playing" you - don't give her the power to do that.
sweet-oooh Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 tell her not to contact you until she's grown up a little bit. Life is way tooooo short for games.
very-confused-girl Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Well I have to say that girls are traditionally a little bit of players. That comes from even ancient times. You know girls are weaker so if they want to get something, sometimes they have to do it in a little bit of playful way with the help of some intriques. Sometimes they cant be straight to the point. Sometimes they get upset and you dont have a clue why because you havent done anything bad to her. These things are basically related to hormones as well and our behaviour is based very much on emotions.... In my view she still cares for you, she wanted to make you jealous by dancing with that other guy and she was trying to find out wheter you cared. This game of hers is not an issue here in my view. All these games show that she still cares but what you have to do is to get into the core of the problems. Simply ask her why she left you and what is the deal now, whether she wants to continue the relationship or not. I would say she sounds a bit confused to me, but the way she behaved in the disco says about her that she is definitely an attention seeker and that time on the disco she was seeking for your attention. Anyway you have to talk to her and ask her why she acted the way she did. Talking to her female friend would be a good idea if you wanted to make her jealous. But I guess you guys dont need to have two players in the relationship. One is enough. I cant even imagine that talking to her friend would be that beneficial because the friend can tell you something that might harm relationship between you and your ex, even unintentionally. But people have different ways of viewing things so if I was you I would avoid the friend. You never know, this friend of hers might benefit from you too breaking up completely, maybe she likes you, or she would like to have your ex-gf just for herself, people are different.
sweet-oooh Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 i agree with curvygirl. Games are cruel, and i dont see how someone can try to win someones attention by screwing with their heads. Find yourself someone who can give you the love you deserve.
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