thysecret Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 1. Do you think Girls or Guys regret it more after some time? 2. Are Dumper Ex-girlfriend or Dumper Ex-Boyfriend harder to chase back after the break up? 3. Do NC work better on Girls or Guys? Please feel free to post more about what you personally noticed about Girls VS Guys after a break up! Thanks! Share your experiences people!
AtTheStart Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 People are individuals and while relationships are common the dynamic between the two individuals is personal to them, to everyone who is here...so that being said whoever was dumped, girl or guy, is going to take it harder post-breakup. Dumper already worked through the breakup when they led up to "doomsday". I do find that it's the consensus of the board that female dumpers have an easier go of it for varying theories...mostly Im citing the tree swing theory. NC work how? Like to get someone back? It doesn't work like that. Whoever keeps no contact longer (whoever gets to the point of caring the least)...is likely to be in a position to expedite their healing the fastest...therefor "works" the most for them. Guy or girl. Does that answer? 1
d0nnivain Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 people's reactions to a break up are not gender specific. I think women have a better support system. It's more socially acceptable to cry on each other's shoulders. Guys are basically told -- forget her, go bang somebody else you'll feel better. There aren't many outlets to express their grief, hurt & loss but that doesn't mean they don't feel them. Applied properly as a healing tool -- NC works equally well for both genders. Applied improperly as a manipulative way to get somebody back, I think it's a maturity level not a gender specific thing. The immature people may come crawling back after being ignored. 1
barky2 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 1. Do you think Girls or Guys regret it more after some time? 2. Are Dumper Ex-girlfriend or Dumper Ex-Boyfriend harder to chase back after the break up? 3. Do NC work better on Girls or Guys? Please feel free to post more about what you personally noticed about Girls VS Guys after a break up! Thanks! Share your experiences people! Everyone is different, but I'll give you my opinion that should be taken with a grain of salt. 1) Men 2) Women 3) isn't about getting someone back. But most men hate to be ignored. Seems like women like their space after breaking up with their exs. I've been contacted years later by exs, regret ect. But also have seen a lot of men make rash decisions that they later regret. All can both go either way. Barky
AlphaC Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 1. Do you think Girls or Guys regret it more after some time? 2. Are Dumper Ex-girlfriend or Dumper Ex-Boyfriend harder to chase back after the break up? 3. Do NC work better on Girls or Guys? Please feel free to post more about what you personally noticed about Girls VS Guys after a break up! Thanks! Share your experiences people! I will answer number 3. I will opine that NO Contact works better for men. You know why, because as men get older we get wiser. Our pockets fatten up, and if we hit the gym, the sea is full of fish. For women, as they age their opportunities diminish, they know this too!!!! The prime years for women are when they are in their 20's. This is when their skin is tight, their hair is NOT sprinkled with grays, and their boobs are not sagging like grape vines. For me, being a man, NO contact like a charm. I cut all contact, all of it!! In 3 months I was dating again, feeling stronger and looking better. Now I am with a new girl, much prettier, younger, sweeter, tastier, lol - call me nasty, I don't care! I will answer your other questions: 1. Do girls or guys regret it more? Who cares, why do you even care about this, just move on buddy!! 2. Harder to chase back male of female? Again who cares, just worry about yourself. Like the other poster stated, every relationship is unique and if you rely on someone else's situation to influence yours, you will not progress. To all the MEN out there, move on, hit the gym, earn more loot and never, I mean NEVER look back. Trust me, when you least expect it you will be saying, "DAMN, I WAS HURTING FOR THAT??, WHAT WAS I THINKING?" Keep moving forward my friends, life is toooooooo short.
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