Me [24M] with my Ex[22F] 6 years. After breaking up, not sure where to go from here.

[raylouis]

First, let me say thank you for reading my post and for spending your time in replying. With that said...

 

My ex and I met about 6 years ago at a local place where we both use to work together. After a few months, we became good friends and would talk every now and then, but we would only hang out.

 

After a few years, I transferred from a community college to a university in the fall of 2012 because my major, Electrical Engineering Tech, required that I have a B.S. and not an A.S. This university just happened to be where my ex was and is studying for her major. Fate would have it, we just happen to take the same calculus I course. I failed and had to retake it the following semester, whereas she moved on to calculus II.

 

Spring 2013, we decided that it was best if we could carpool together since the college we are going to is over 30miles away. During that time, I got to know her really well. We got to talk about a past relationship that I knew failed, but never knew why. We'd also talk about the guys that she would take an interest in, and she would ask for my advice on it. (Mind you at this time, neither one of us had an interest in the other.)

 

So summers rolls around and we talked off and on, because my job was out of state at the time. She works at a coffee shop down the street, so if I wasn't going to be heading out of the state, I would come in and just say "hey!" and maybe talk for an hour or so and that was that.

 

Fall 2013, my schedule didn't allow for us to carpool and so we would hang out at local Starbucks to just do homework together. While we were doing this she would flirt with me, she also would touch me with her feet. Fact, she knew that I hate to be touched by anyone and at first I found it to be annoying, but after a while I enjoyed her annoying me. After a few months, I asked her if she wouldn't mind dating and she said sure. At the time, we agreed to wait till spring of 2014. Mid-October, she asked if we could date sooner and I waited a week and said, "yes."

 

From October to last week of November, everything looked good. Around that time, she started to act weird, and after having a few deep talks with her, she said that she feels that she isn't ready for a relationship. After finals week, I asked her if she needed to break up and she said yes. I told her that I was ok with it. Now, she made it a point to tell me that she didn't want to hurt me and that she really wanted to remain friends. Again, I was completely ok with this.

 

Within about 2 weeks, she literately shut me out of her life completely and I was confused as to why. I tried talking to her and she would give one to 2 word responses. I wasn't getting the message that she wanted space. I figured that she would have told me.

 

Around the end of January, a good friend of both of us asked her point blank without me knowing, "Do you still want a friendship with him?" Her reply was that of "YES!" My friend also asked without me knowing, "Do you want a relationship with him later?" Her response was that of a strong possibility. My friend asked her why she created an emotional wall between us and my ex said that she didn't know. After talking with my friend, and asking her what do I do, she told me to give my ex space. Send maybe one text every so often, no more.

 

With this being known, I have been sending only pictures that I know my ex would find interesting or funny. This has been going on since that talk at the end of January.

 

I'll get a "Haha", a "LOL", or a comment from my ex on the pictures that I send her. So she is reading them and finding them funny/interesting.

 

Here is where it gets weird for me.

 

I haven't asked my ex what she is doing, in fact, I don't ask her anything period. I want her to come to me. This way I know that everything is ok between us. I've gotten a few text messages that has me scratching my head and wondering why she would ask that or why she would say that.

 

Example 1, I drive down to school 4 days a week, whereas she only drives 2 days. One morning, I got woken up from a text from her asking if I can go to the IT building and get a file for her final semester project that she left on one of the computers? Ok, no big deal, right? She asked if I would have free time to get it and then said, "I'll get you cup of coffee =P"

 

Example 2, she randomly asked if I have already made my schedule for fall semester and I told her that I haven't.

 

Example 3, she loves to do yoga. After taking a few classes with her a while back, I began to love it as well. The gym that we were both going to offered it on Saturday mornings, but changed to Sundays and I couldn't go anymore. After I didn't show up a few times, she asked if I was ever going to yoga and the gym anymore and I told her that I still was, but at a different place. She asked why, and I BSed her and told her that my school schedule worked out better this way. In reality, I feel more comfortable staying away from her and not feeling as if I am pestering her or even worse, stalking her.

 

Example 4, she loves Pokemon whereas I never got into it as a kid. I bought a DS a while back and we would battle maybe once or twice. So she texted me randomly one day if we would be able to battle sometime? I told her sometime.

 

Something else I forgot to mention. On Monday nights, we leave school at the same time. There have been reports of muggings of female students and I ask her every Monday if she is ok with me walking her out to her car and she hasn't ever turned it down. I know her to be head strong and if she didn't want me to, I know she would say "No!". I'm just wondering if I am to look at this as a good sign or if it's just nothing. It has offered us a chance to really talk though. She tells me things that have been going on in her life. I look at it as good.

 

I apologize for the length of this post. I have just been wondering for the past few weeks if I should completely cut off communication from her or if I should just leave it at a text every so often(One text every two to three weeks). There is still a big part of me that would love to have her back in my life and another part of me that doesn't want to have anything to do with her ever again. Your guys thoughts?