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Hey guys. I'm dating this lovely, gorgeous guy who has a pure heart of gold. I cannot believe it; I feel so blessed :love:

 

We have been dating for 4.5 months now. The first month was spent talking online. Anyway, today he propsed a dinner date and a walk in a nice, floral park in downtown Toronto (a childhood place of mine too). It was this italian restaurant that had an "indoor" patio, with this "indoor" garden and the sounds of nature. It feels like you're outside but you're actually inside. Lol. It's very classy and cute, popular too. I dressed up real nice for him and he told me i was beautiful, like 4 times lol. He also kept staring at me but he doesn't like to talk much and would rather listen to me. When the bill came, my jaw dropped. I didn't directly offer to pay, because i read in this relationship book, that men don't like "masculine" energy from a woman. But i was ready to pay half of the bill, i even brought $80 cash with me in case. So instead i tried to be subtle about it and say, "Um...are you sure about this?" Him: "yeah no worries i got this". It was $49 for two people and that could've covered like 4 people to me.

 

Also, we went to the park. It was really nice. We kissed under a tree and laid there for about an hour, just talking. I told him i'm going to buy a pack of gum, because i hate aftertaste. He told me my breath is great lolll. But he also bought that too o_O $1.00 because i chose the cheapest gum.

 

Then i was taking the subway home. He paid for my fare when i told him i already have bus tickets! he's like "no, i want to give you my ticket honey". I feel bad. I mean, i had like 10 tickets in my pocket and he had only 4, so i wanted him to save his. Anyway, we ended the night with a kiss. He told me to call him when i get home, which i did.

 

Luckily i got home before my family :p Lolll

 

So yeah what you guys think? Is he a romantic or just buying my love? BTW we didn't have sex yet. He seems like a very genuine guy. I never had a guy like this before. So romantic. This is my first serious long-term relationship. He even told me "i just want to buy you those bunch of roses right there. I will soon" Then i asked, "well, which colour?" Him: "which colour would you get me?" Me: "white..." Him: "oh, i'd get you red, for Love" I blushed so much i didn't know what to say but "that's sweet of you, ___" :o

 

Also do you guys think he loves me already? IDK these seem pretty heavy for "dates"... are these huge dates a symbol he already loves me? That's so fast , i go slow emotionally :S

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He is being a gentleman, when a man takes a lady out on an official date he pays. That was very sweet of him to give you his tickets. Let him spoil you, smile and say thank you that is so nice of you :)

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Alright thanks :p i just havent had that before. I guess i shouldn't be suspicious..

 

I should note that he didn't have alcohol with his dinner. He only drinks once a week with friends which is good. We both had diet Coke :p which is good, i guess he respects me

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Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww... bless! this is so cute!! :love:

 

How old are you two?

 

He is not trying to buy your love.. he is just being a gentleman. If it makes you feel uncomfortable that he paid for everything.. then pay for the next date. Tell him it's your turn to take him out! It doesn't have to be extravagant... just whatever you can afford. Your and his budgets for entertainment might be different. That's ok. Buy the movie tickets or pay for the popcorn. He will appreciate that you are willing to pay for him sometimes too.

 

Don't worry about the cost of bus tickets and gum. These things are small in the grand scheme of things.

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Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww... bless! this is so cute!! :love:

 

How old are you two?

 

He is not trying to buy your love.. he is just being a gentleman. If it makes you feel uncomfortable that he paid for everything.. then pay for the next date. Tell him it's your turn to take him out! It doesn't have to be extravagant... just whatever you can afford. Your and his budgets for entertainment might be different. That's ok. Buy the movie tickets or pay for the popcorn. He will appreciate that you are willing to pay for him sometimes too.

 

Don't worry about the cost of bus tickets and gum. These things are small in the grand scheme of things.

 

 

Lollllllllll your comment is so cute :o

 

 

I am 21 and he is 23 but looks like 21 :p He's turning 24 in Sept 23

 

Alright thanks i'll keep that mind. I want him to be the man but i dont like when he pays for everything so i'll let him pick the place but i will offer to pay :D

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Alright thanks :p i just havent had that before. I guess i shouldn't be suspicious..

 

I should note that he didn't have alcohol with his dinner. He only drinks once a week with friends which is good. We both had diet Coke :p which is good, i guess he respects me

 

Sounds like you got yourself a real good guy :)

 

Him not taking alcohol means he doesn't want to risk being tipsy and say or do something silly that would disappoint you, he wants to be a gentleman from A to Z.

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