pizzanova Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 I have a best friend who always calls me and makes all the effort. Whenever she calls, we talk for hours on end (she usually calls mutiple times per day). We also hang out almost every day. Problem is, I NEVER call her. I have a phobia of calling people. When I was younger, I was a social misfit and I used to always be the one to call my "friends." One day I decided to see what would happen if I didnt call them, and wouldnt you know it, many I never heard from again. I think this affected me in a huge way. I'm scared of calling people, because if they can't talk, I'll think of it as such a letdown. I'll only usually call people if I've missed a call from them or they told me to call at a particular time. I think my best friend is testing me now. She doesn't really call me anymore (I haven't seen her recently either, but I've been sick with the flu). I'm literally scared to pick up a phone and make that call. I would almost just prefer if she didn't answer, and called me back later, on HER OWN time. How do I prep myself?
Pocky Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 Why don't you email her an e-card? Something sweet that says you're thinking of her. That way you can bypass the anxiety you get from making the call, but you can still reach out to her so that she knows you care. Is she aware of how you feel about phoning?
craque Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 Oh for crying out loud, just call her. She obviously is not one of those people who won't call you back if you call her, since she always called you. Imagine that she is testing you the same way you've tested your friends some time ago - you don't want her to get a trauma do you? Just call her
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