Mr. Notalk Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 Hey, I am new at this forum thing, but here goes. I am entirely not good with girls, i can't talk and i feel extremely nervous if i ever say anything no matter how minor. Even tyrying to say "Hi" to the girl i like. So heres the story, for a long time i have admired this one girl. I am not in any of her classes except science, but i was recently assigned to sit next to her. I DON"T KNOW HOW TO TALK I NEED HELP, any advice at all would be cool. Another problem is i sometimes try and talk to her but usually all that comes out is something like "hi" then i don't know what to say or how to start any kind of conversation. I don't want to be just the guy from science class, i want her to remember me, i want to get her whatever she wants. Valentines day is coming up, but she doesn't even know me, still even without her knowing who i am(no name on card) i want to send her stuff anything tons of candy, anything. HELP ME I NEED TO GET TO KNOW THIS GIRL
seahorse Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 Hi Mr. Notalk, Ask her to help you with the science - that's as good a starter as anything. Tell her you don't understand this/that bit of it. Ask her what she thinks of the tutor. Ask her about herself, is she local? What does she like/not like/hobbies. People - not just girls- like to be asked stuff about themselves. You generally find that once you break the ice and get the conversation warmed up, that one subject leads to another and before you know it - you're married! (Just kidding) Honestly, don't stress about it, (easy for me to say I know) and just make that start! Good luck.
WalkingTall Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 Try not to stress it, cause it will make matters worse.... You will begin to second guess and rehearse what you will say to introduce yourself and begin a conversation. I do have to say that "HI" is a good start. But you have to build on that. No matter what you say, you must present yourself with confidence. Not arrogance, but a subtle confidence. Know that you are a great person, and show that in your demeanor. Most communication is non-verbal. Stand up straight and when you talk to her, look her in the face.... eyes would be better, but lets start slow! Try not to fidget with things in your pocket, thats a NO-NO. As the last poster (sorry forgot the name ) mentioned, talk about something in common, ask about her, compliment her on an article of clothing, or her choice in music, just something that you must have noticed. Anyway thanks for reminding me of my High School days! .... good luck to you... and don't worry... it's all good!!!!!
alphamale Posted February 6, 2005 Posted February 6, 2005 you sound pretty young, MR.NOTALK. you'll figure it out as you get older. dealing with the opposite sex is a learned skill for many people. for some it comes natural from a young age, for many it iis not. as you get older and gain more confidence and experience with girls you'll get the hang of it. it is just like learning to drive or to play golf, takes time.
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