NvrLetUDown Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 So I wanted to return and post on my success story as this site has helpede quite a bit. 8 months ago in august I posted about my ex girlfriend of 1.5 years who felt like she didn't want a relatoionship anymore and wanted to enjoy being single. I really believed her and for a while it seemed like that's what she wanted but two months into university and she started dating another guy, with the same name... It was the worst, I totally hit rock bottom and she called me 20 minutes before my volleyball game to let me know that she was seeing someone else. I made the same mistakes everyone else did shouldn't have even picked up. We didn't talk but saw eachother in class so every now and then there was a hello here and there. That gave me a bit of hope and I wasn't able to fully let go of her. We totally rocked the volleyball game but it was extremely mentally straining. The team was wondering what was wrong with their captain and I didn't want to exactly share, it was a good turning point for me though. It was exactly what I needed and our team went undefeated that season and I put time into school, exercise and learning new hobbies. You'd be surprised how much time you have on your hands when you're single it's pretty nice. I took up cooking, djing, swimming and volleyball and that on top of my academic work really helped me in my tough time. Our anniversary (New Years) was kinda tough but i spent it with friends and slowly important days such as valentines day and our birthdays suddenly weren't as important anymore. Fast forward and in February I met a girl in my cancer fundraising club at school and we totally click. The odd thing was that she was 4 years younger than me, yet we got along very well and this is not the first girl post breakup that I talked to. I wanted to figure things out for myself before I started seeing anyone and I am very glad I went that route versus the rebound route. I was finally ready to start dating (imo) and we both agreed to see where it goes in the summer because she was moving back to Calgary for 4 months. She's one of the sweetest people I've ever met and honestly you think you'd never find anyone as good as your ex but once you remove them from that pedestal, you'll find that they're just average people. Anyways , I am happy where I am, I am confident and yes I can handle being alone and am happy with myself. So I hope this gives some insight on the tough road ahead for some of you, it won't be easy and everyone takes different amounts of time but you will get there and you will be happy as long as you want it ! Thanks for the read ! 5
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