StGeorge22 Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Hi guys For anyone who knows my story, I had a five year relationship, she had some mental health issues and blamed me for a lot of it and we broke up. After 18 months of on and off she moved states for another dude while in the build up to the move asked me to do councelling and long distance. Anyway, I found out about 6 weeks ago that she was fully with this guy now. After calling her out on a bunch of lies I finally decided I had to go full NC. It hurt like hell for a few days and while I'm still not 100%, I'm honestly the happiest I've been in a long time as I simply don't have this weighing my down anymore. It's amazing how many people have told me how much I've changed and seem happier. Anyway, last week I heard from my ex. It was about some registration details for our dog that was in her name. I called the council to find out the details and told her to ignore it and I'd take care of it. I was very indifferent, not polite but not rude either. She responded saying how much she missed the dog and still thinks about him. Massive breadcrumb. Weeks ago I would have responded with emotion and gotten into a massive thing. But I didn't . In fact I didn't reply at all. What's the point? She made her choice. Why should I give it even a seconds thought. Anyway I just wanted to share my story. I know there are plenty of people on here really hurting. I'm far from over it, but my progress has been so good. I'm dating some really great girls, and this was my first test from hearing from my ex and I think I did well. What happens from here who knows. But I know I'm in control of myself for the first time in ages, and that's a great feeling. 2
Jiivy Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 We're proud! Now here's what I want you to do - go out there, get yourself some tail and fall in love. Be happy with someone new. I'm expecting a follow up thread in X weeks/months/years telling us how you found the right one after all.
Always Pondering Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Major props to you man. Not only were you able to stick through with NC after just having started it but you were able to already reply (or not reply at all) with indifference. Stay strong and keep on going with that attitude if she contacts you again. Your post reminds those of us who are going through the NC process to keep our heads up and not give in to emotions.
Author StGeorge22 Posted April 22, 2014 Author Posted April 22, 2014 Thanks guys. As I say, I'm far from completely over it and still have some bad days, but it's amazing the quality of people you can attract when you have the right attitude. Hope this gives encouragement to this going thru what I went thru!
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