nais Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Hope the feelings were not mutual- Please share if you care, or dare. I was not in the most happiest of forms yet I made do. Stayed up Saturday night on Skype with the 'option' until close to 3 am (started off and on around 1130). He is in a remote location overseas - it filled the void. Yet, was enjoyable- kept me in a Happy place.
Nattie Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Mine was pleasant! I didn't talk to him but for the most part we don't get in touch with each other on Sundays. He's my MOM and that's mutual family day. We had a pretty intense week so it was refreshing to take the weekend off. I give it until approximately 2pm this afternoon before he starts blowing my phone up.
Author nais Posted April 21, 2014 Author Posted April 21, 2014 Mine was pleasant! I didn't talk to him but for the most part we don't get in touch with each other on Sundays. He's my MOM and that's mutual family day. We had a pretty intense week so it was refreshing to take the weekend off. I give it until approximately 2pm this afternoon before he starts blowing my phone up. Sounds like a plan- I think some affairs work best when distractions are present. I am in a situation where I have no distractions- well I try to make the best of what I do have but one that is permanent would help.
Lady2163 Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 I'm also another one who doesn't have much contact on the weekends. Easter, meh....not a big deal. I'm single without children. Holidays just aren't much anymore and advent been for a long time.
Nattie Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Sounds like a plan- I think some affairs work best when distractions are present. I am in a situation where I have no distractions- well I try to make the best of what I do have but one that is permanent would help. I am completely convinced that the only reason we work SO well is because we're both married and respect each other's space. I don't know how you do it, if I were single and with him I think I'd go crazy! I do have to say though, things are changing and quickly. There's no easy way out now, we love each other. I can see this train wreck coming a million miles away but I do nothing to stop it.
Author nais Posted April 21, 2014 Author Posted April 21, 2014 I am completely convinced that the only reason we work SO well is because we're both married and respect each other's space. I don't know how you do it, if I were single and with him I think I'd go crazy! I do have to say though, things are changing and quickly. There's no easy way out now, we love each other. I can see this train wreck coming a million miles away but I do nothing to stop it. We were in an open situation some years ago. Things became dangerous- I had a stalker situation from an option. The option blamed the MM - it took some difficult directions but at the end of it all, if I wanted to remain in any capacity I had to be exclusive.
Poppy's sister Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Nattie....get ready...train crash inevitable....i was you...all full of how clever we were compartmentalising, never going to leave marriages etc etc....oh my, if only i had foreseen how it would feel right now... for full story i have recently posted it on another thread...were are you in your relationship today one.... it is an unholy mess..... so easter has been hell on wheels....infact i think i have reached tipping point and feel so sad....
Nattie Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Poppy, I am going to go read your story right now.... and I can PM if you'd like. So sorry you're having such a hard time
Poppy's sister Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 thanks...that is really kind of you, i finding it hard to find right support....on here it seems to be ' leave and go n/c' or ' i was dropped and going n/c' or people saying affairs are so wrong and how horrid we are.... i dont want to end my affair, i have valid reasons for having one in first place, dont even want my AP to leave wife right now, just dont want to be so confused !
Author nais Posted April 21, 2014 Author Posted April 21, 2014 thanks...that is really kind of you, i finding it hard to find right support....on here it seems to be ' leave and go n/c' or ' i was dropped and going n/c' or people saying affairs are so wrong and how horrid we are.... i dont want to end my affair, i have valid reasons for having one in first place, dont even want my AP to leave wife right now, just dont want to be so confused ! Sorry your going through it- Holidays- all of them get to me He called around 0930 this am, same bat time- I was in a funk due to a few issues outside of us that I was dealing with. I told him I would be out of pocket for a minute but I spoke to him. He said he has noted I have had a lot on my plate last week- too many triggers!!!
Nattie Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Triggers....sigh. Songs, places, certain restaurants. I even have a perfume that I didn't intentionally use for him, but I wore it for a few encounters and now, it's his. I don't wear it unless I'm seeing him because it depresses me to smell it when he's not around.
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