Roommate cheated on her boyfriend, My boyfriend hates her now

[Cpt]

Glad to know things worked out!!!

[freetolove]

You're not a very good friend towards your best friend. Friends are suppose to help each other through things. No only when things are good. Looks like your "perfect" boyfriend is capable of being a pretty big jerk as well. If he is comfortable calling a woman a slut and a bitch, just wait til it turns on you. Your bf sounds like a control freak.

[kaylan]

You're not a very good friend towards your best friend. Friends are suppose to help each other through things. No only when things are good. Looks like your "perfect" boyfriend is capable of being a pretty big jerk as well. If he is comfortable calling a woman a slut and a bitch, just wait til it turns on you. Your bf sounds like a control freak.

1. Friendships are not unconditional. If 2 people have vastly different values, this many times leads to an end of a friendship.

 

2. Most guys are comfortable with calling out a chick out of her name for bad behavior. If it walks and talks like a duck...its a duck. But in this case...we are talking about a woman who indeed showed slutty behavior. Id just as easily call a male cheater a dirtbag, dick, or a manwh0re.

Edited April 23, 2014 by kaylan

[lamaga]

You're not a very good friend towards your best friend. Friends are suppose to help each other through things. No only when things are good. Looks like your "perfect" boyfriend is capable of being a pretty big jerk as well. If he is comfortable calling a woman a slut and a bitch, just wait til it turns on you. Your bf sounds like a control freak.

 

How am I not a good friend?

SHE has drawn me into this situation, slept with one of my close friends in our apartment while Me and my Boyfriend were in the next room... Knowing she is with another guy who is wonderful to her.

Knowing all that, I still held her when she cried and needed advice and told her to make things right, defended her in front of my boyfriend, which led to him not talking to me.

 

Please, what's wrong with you?

[ThatMan]

The way you inserted yourself into your roommate's relationship isn't an act of a good friend.

 

Healthy relationships require healthy boundaries. How you've reacted to the situation had no boundaries, not with your roommate, and certainly not with your own boyfriend. There should be no surprise that things became tense with your own relationship. Please think long and hard over several days about what you've done and decide if that was really the right thing to do.

 

Not to mention....

The fact that she literally had sex in the next room and you still defended her anyways is very disturbing. I think you're very lucky to still have a relationship at all with the way you're behaving.

Edited April 23, 2014 by ThatMan
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[atlg8r]

1. Glad you and your boyfriend got to talk. I agree with you - I'd be concerned about him totally shutting you out for a day or longer because of a fight. Conflict can only be resolved with respectful communication. I get that guys sometimes need a "cool down" period, but he could at least text you and say he was still bothered, but that he loved you or something and would call the next day.
   
2. Glad your friend came clean. I take a hard line on cheating (like your bf it sounds like) so I'm shocked her man didn't dump her, too. Once trust is broken, it's nearly impossible to get back.
   
3. Sorry you are going through this. I think you took some unnecessary flak from posters here, but for what it's worth, it seems like your intentions were always good.
   

[Imajerk17]

I should warn you lamaga, that this is almost surely NOT the end of the situation. Not even close.

 

Your roommate's relationship with her boyfriend has some seriously rocky times coming up. However he took her confession that she cheated, he has a lot of anger towards your roommate that he hasn't even processed yet. And so this means that your roommate will be going through a lot of tough times. And so your days of being asked to provide intense emotional support to your roommate are likely far from over.

 

That said: If you want your relationship with your boyfriend to last, I think that you need to have better boundaries when it comes to your roommate. You can't be handling things as you did before. (a) You can't talk about her to your boyfriend (b) You need to be coming over to your boyfriend's place more so he doesn't have to see your roommate.

 

Hopefully you've given all this some thought.

[Leigh 87]

The way you inserted yourself into your roommate's relationship isn't an act of a good friend.

 

Healthy relationships require healthy boundaries. How you've reacted to the situation had no boundaries, not with your roommate, and certainly not with your own boyfriend. There should be no surprise that things became tense with your own relationship. Please think long and hard over several days about what you've done and decide if that was really the right thing to do.

 

Not to mention....

The fact that she literally had sex in the next room and you still defended her anyways is very disturbing. I think you're very lucky to still have a relationship at all with the way you're behaving.

 

 

 

What's wrong with you?

 

Seriously...

 

Lamaga has been a devoted girlfriend.

 

Her friend being a skank has nothing to do with Lamaga.

 

Lamaga is a nice person, it is pretty straight forward that nice people generally like to help calm people down when they are in need.

 

People who are genuinely nice (maybe you are not familiar with "nice" people), find it HARD to not comfort a person who is in need.

 

I am like Lamaga, I cannot walk away from a crying person. I HAVE been the friend who comforted a friend after she cheated right in front of me.

 

We still think our friends are terrible for doing what they did, and frankly if we were their boyfriends we would dump the sh*t out of them. Yesterday.

 

That doesn't mean that we can turn a blind eye and tell our friends to **** off if they are desperately crying.

[ThatMan]

Boundaries are important in determining the health of a relationship. Boundaries clarify where a friend stops and where you begin, which problems belong to you and which problems belong to them. We need boundaries to be a good friend with anyone.

 

Friends support and comfort each other all the time. That doesn't mean the troubles of a friend should be brought into your own relationship. You can be a friend without needing to defend them to a spouse, supporting and enabling them in their terrible decisions, or placing yourself in the middle of a friend's relationship. Lamaga has the right to choose her friends. If her boyfriend doesn't approve she doesn't need to justify that friendship with him let alone revolve her relationship around that friend's infidelity.

 

And yes, who we willingly include as friends absolutely does reflect on our own character. Does that make anyone a bad person? Not at all. Is Lamaga lucky for having a relationship because of who her friends are? No. She's lucky to still have a relationship despite her poor boundaries. This entire situation could have been resolved from a single sentence without escalating further. You do realize that, right?

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, does your boyfriend understand that shutting you out is an immature and ineffective way to resolve a conflict? Absolutely he might have needed some breathing room for a little while. But more than a day? How did he explain that? What would have happened if you hadn't called him?

 

I'd just be very wary. You're inadvertently setting yourself up in an unhealthy pattern. If this is how he handles problems that technically don't involve him, imagine what he'll do when you have a serious issue between the two of you.

[Spectre]

You're not a very good friend towards your best friend. Friends are suppose to help each other through things. No only when things are good. Looks like your "perfect" boyfriend is capable of being a pretty big jerk as well. If he is comfortable calling a woman a slut and a bitch, just wait til it turns on you. Your bf sounds like a control freak.

 

I'm sorry, but this is all just plain 100% wrong. The bf isn't perfect no doubt, but at least he has morals. You are getting on this guy for essentially being comfortable with giving someone an appropriate label? So would you get mad if he called a dog a dog?

 

He doesn't sound controlling. Not saying he was 100% right, but sorry..being friends with someone doesn't mean you are not allowed to call them out on shady behavior. I can't imagine why you would ever think that was the case.

[TheGuard13]

TLDR...have we arrived at the conclusion that the OP's boyfriend has a thing for the girl who cheated and is jealous of the guy she cheated with yet?

[Cpt]

TLDR...have we arrived at the conclusion that the OP's boyfriend has a thing for the girl who cheated and is jealous of the guy she cheated with yet?

 

My thoughts too. That anger and distaste OP's bf has for the girl who cheated could soon turn into angry passionate lust, and that can happen even if he doesn't want it to happen. OP I suggest you keep your bf away from this girl no matter what.

[Gaeta]

Well since the beginning I have been saying OP's boyfriend is over-reacting. It's between her and her friend. Why the heck would he care enough to call her room mate a slvt or a shvnk.

 

If I tell my bf that my friend cheated on her man he will say: damn really? wow! and that would be the end of it. He doesn't care about the drama in my friend's life.

 

Also people have tried to play the card that OP's boyfriend and room-mate's boyfriend were friends, no, he thought that guy was cool and got along with. He was not a friend, he just knew him as his girlfriend's roomate's boyfriend.

 

You know what I have discovered in my long life? That those who yells 'wolf' are often wolf themselves.

 

My ex-husband use to condemn domestic violence till he had no breath, he would say men hitting women are weak, cowards, they deserves the electric chair....then we would go home and he'd hit me across the face.

 

Just saying....

[lamaga]

The way you inserted yourself into your roommate's relationship isn't an act of a good friend.

 

Healthy relationships require healthy boundaries. How you've reacted to the situation had no boundaries, not with your roommate, and certainly not with your own boyfriend. There should be no surprise that things became tense with your own relationship. Please think long and hard over several days about what you've done and decide if that was really the right thing to do.

 

Not to mention....

The fact that she literally had sex in the next room and you still defended her anyways is very disturbing. I think you're very lucky to still have a relationship at all with the way you're behaving.

 

This is just ridiculous. I didn't insert myself into her relationship. She drew me into it. I didn't want anything to do with it but it was her and the guy she cheated with standing in my living room the next morning having coffee while my boyfriend and me needed to get ready for work. Please... She deliberately did this. And I never defended her. After it happened I didn't talk to her for 3 days. Then she came crying to me. Of course I comforted her and gave her advice, but I always told her what I think of what she did.

 

 

I should warn you lamaga, that this is almost surely NOT the end of the situation. Not even close.

 

Your roommate's relationship with her boyfriend has some seriously rocky times coming up. However he took her confession that she cheated, he has a lot of anger towards your roommate that he hasn't even processed yet. And so this means that your roommate will be going through a lot of tough times. And so your days of being asked to provide intense emotional support to your roommate are likely far from over.

 

That said: If you want your relationship with your boyfriend to last, I think that you need to have better boundaries when it comes to your roommate. You can't be handling things as you did before. (a) You can't talk about her to your boyfriend (b) You need to be coming over to your boyfriend's place more so he doesn't have to see your roommate.

 

Hopefully you've given all this some thought.

 

I am aware that it is not over. And talking about boundaries... I didn't set those, she did when she deliberately slept with someone in our apartment whilst my boyfriend and me were in the next room realising what the heck is happening, with a bad bad feeling in our stomachs... My boyfriend and me very often have couples dinners or drinks with the two, and we are all friends who care about each other. It makes everything more difficult. And of course I will not talk to my boyfriend about this unless he asks - simply because he wants to know how I am dealing with the whole situation.

 

 

OP, does your boyfriend understand that shutting you out is an immature and ineffective way to resolve a conflict? Absolutely he might have needed some breathing room for a little while. But more than a day? How did he explain that? What would have happened if you hadn't called him?

 

I'd just be very wary. You're inadvertently setting yourself up in an unhealthy pattern. If this is how he handles problems that technically don't involve him, imagine what he'll do when you have a serious issue between the two of you.

 

I think he realises that and he apologised for that. I told him that this can't happen again and he needs to be more communicative and sensible when he needs his space. He took it to heart. WE are still learning about each other.

 

 

TLDR...have we arrived at the conclusion that the OP's boyfriend has a thing for the girl who cheated and is jealous of the guy she cheated with yet?

My thoughts too. That anger and distaste OP's bf has for the girl who cheated could soon turn into angry passionate lust, and that can happen even if he doesn't want it to happen. OP I suggest you keep your bf away from this girl no matter what.

 

That's just the most ridiculous thing I have heard so far.

 

 

 

 

You know what I have discovered in my long life? That those who yells 'wolf' are often wolf themselves.

 

My ex-husband use to condemn domestic violence till he had no breath, he would say men hitting women are weak, cowards, they deserves the electric chair....then we would go home and he'd hit me across the face.

 

Just saying....

 

 

My boyfriend is just a very loyal guy, simple as that. I know he'd never cheat on me and I would never cheat on him, which is why we have no jealousy issues and trust each other. We know what we have and would never jeopardise it. I am very lucky to have found someone like him. Just because somebody condemns something doesn't mean they are guilty as charged themselves. It's like saying people who condemn vegans for living an exaggerated hippie lifestyle want to be non-meat-eaters themselves. Give me a break...

But I get what you mean, that's a fear I had in the very beginning of our relationship before I got to know him better. But now that I know him I can tell where these strong values stem from. Everybody is different.

Edited April 23, 2014 by lamaga

[Cpt]

Well since the beginning I have been saying OP's boyfriend is over-reacting. It's between her and her friend. Why the heck would he care enough to call her room mate a slvt or a shvnk.

 

If I tell my bf that my friend cheated on her man he will say: damn really? wow! and that would be the end of it. He doesn't care about the drama in my friend's life.

 

Also people have tried to play the card that OP's boyfriend and room-mate's boyfriend were friends, no, he thought that guy was cool and got along with. He was not a friend, he just knew him as his girlfriend's roomate's boyfriend.

 

You know what I have discovered in my long life? That those who yells 'wolf' are often wolf themselves.

 

My ex-husband use to condemn domestic violence till he had no breath, he would say men hitting women are weak, cowards, they deserves the electric chair....then we would go home and he'd hit me across the face.

 

Just saying....

 

Wow at the wisdom in this post. Read this and read it again until you understand it backwards OP.

 

Ridiculous, well maybe but it certainly is a possiblity.

[Spectre]

Yeah, I kind of have to agree with lamaga. I am not saying I am an expert on the situation, but the boyfriend having this strong a reaction to cheating DOES NOT in any way mean he has feelings for this woman! Trust me. I can somewhat relate. If this guy has been cheated on before, or had a close friend who he saw get hurt by getting cheating on..yeah it might upset him. I can relate 100% to that.

 

As someone who has been cheated on before, if I was in a situation like this I would indeed probably show some anger at the girl who is cheating. This isn't because I would have feelings, but just because I know what it feels like and I'd never wish that on any guy, so even if I don't know the guy I'd think he would have a right to know unless he is a real SOB or something. So please, do not try to tell this person her boyfriend is into this other girl because of a strong reaction to cheating.

[Spectre]

Wow at the wisdom in this post. Read this and read it again until you understand it backwards OP.

 

Ridiculous, well maybe but it certainly is a possiblity.

 

I honestly find this outlook utterly ridiculous and here is why: you can see proof on this very board. You can see people here who have been cheated on or been very close to someone who has and..yes, sometimes they might lash at at other cheaters. It is unfortunate, but it happens. So for you to suggest this means the guy himself is cheating is just bizarre to me. Sure anything is possible, but him having a strong reaction to someone he knows being deceived? Please, don't ever try to say it suggests he is somehow cheating. That is wrong to me, and messed up.

 

I can tell you straight up right now: unless a guy was a piece of garbage, even if I didn't know him at all? I'd never wish cheating upon him, and I'd still feel he'd have a right to know. I am talking about a stranger there, but in this case the boyfriend does know this other guy. Maybe they aren't best friends, but he still knows him.

Edited April 24, 2014 by Spectre

[Cpt]

I honestly find this outlook utterly ridiculous and here is why: you can see proof on this very board. You can see people here who have been cheated on or been very close to someone who has and..yes, sometimes they might lash at at other cheaters. It is unfortunate, but it happens. So for you to suggest this means the guy himself is cheating is just bizarre to me. Sure anything is possible, but him having a strong reaction to someone he knows being deceived? Please, don't ever try to say it suggests he is somehow cheating. That is wrong to me, and messed up.

 

I can tell you straight up right now: unless a guy was a piece of garbage, even if I didn't know him at all? I'd never wish cheating upon him, and I'd still feel he'd have a right to know. I am talking about a stranger there, but in this case the boyfriend does know this other guy. Maybe they aren't best friends, but he still knows him.

 

I like you, so we'll just have to agree to disagree. But you have to see the patterns though:

I thought I would never cheat - goes and cheats

I hate men who hit women - goes and hits women

 

This ^ happens a lot. So what is happening here then?

[Gaeta]

I said what I said to show that there are all kinds of avenues in an event. I am not saying her boyfriend is cheating. I am saying that SOMETIMES people that bark really loud, louder than they should, MAY do so for a reason.

 

And by the way I was cheated on. I was 4 years with a chronic cheater. You have not heard me call this young woman names. I do condemn cheating but I am not going to spit on another human being.

 

OP: Saying you know your boyfriend would never cheat on you and you would never cheat on him is a very naive and inexperienced way of thinking. You don't know what the future holds.

 

When I was a young woman I would always say if my husband cheats on me I will quick him to the curb, and send him to the cleaner. When my second husband cheated on me ....I did nothing of that. Because TILL the day you are faced with an event you do not know how you will react. Saying I would do this, I would do that, is all speculation.

 

Your room-mates boyfriend probably also thought his gf would NEVER cheat on him and if it ever happened he would dump her..........well look now.

[lamaga]

I said what I said to show that there are all kinds of avenues in an event. I am not saying her boyfriend is cheating. I am saying that SOMETIMES people that bark really loud, louder than they should, MAY do so for a reason.

 

And by the way I was cheated on. I was 4 years with a chronic cheater. You have not heard me call this young woman names. I do condemn cheating but I am not going to spit on another human being.

 

 

 

Jesus, this thread is losing its initial meaning. You guys are taking all of this way too far. What do you expect my boyfriend would have said? Oh wow, she cheated on him, how cool. Of course not. He said if I would cheat on him he would definitely take a step back from the relationship and reassess the situation. He was quite surprised when my roommate's boyfriend took her back RIGHT AWAY.

My boyfriend is not mentioning every day how much he hates cheaters and then goes cheats on me. My ROOMMATE is the one who cheated, not my boyfriend. And he was really surprised she would do that, and so was I, because my roommate is a really sweet girl who seems as if she couldn't hurt a fly. And my boyfriend and me both thought that her and her boyfriend were happy. They have been together for 2,5 months only and all of this came very very to surprise. Of course my boyfriend is angry at her - mainly he was angry because it seemed at first as if she wasn't going to tell her boyfriend, and my boyfriend knew we would have another couples dinner sooner or later, and he couldn't stand the idea of having to look him in the eye - knowing what he knows. Both of our boyfriends are Italian, so they are quite passionate and are very family oriented. I am quite surprised my roommate's boyfriend didn't dump her, but I think he just really loves her and doesn't want to lose her, even though it is going to be really hard for him.

 

OP: Saying you know your boyfriend would never cheat on you and you would never cheat on him is a very naive and inexperienced way of thinking. You don't know what the future holds.

 

No it's not. It's called trust. If I go into a relationship always fearing my partner is going to cheat or if I constantly think, well, he might cheat anyway, what kind of relationship is that? Not a happy one. if you are always paranoid of what could happen, then you have some serious issues. Live, for once. Of course you have no guarantee in life, but if you can't trust a person, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with them. Having faith in someone is not naive, it's what should be the norm. But people are paranoid and twisted and always see the worst in people. I have been cheated on and I have been dumped and hurt and what not, but if I go through life being resentful or jaded, then I'll never be happy..

Edited April 24, 2014 by lamaga

[Gaeta]

Jesus, this thread is losing its initial meaning. You guys are taking all of this way too far. What do you expect my boyfriend would have said? Oh wow, she cheated on him, how cool. Of course not. He said if I would cheat on him he would definitely take a step back from the relationship and reassess the situation. He was quite surprised when my roommate's boyfriend took her back RIGHT AWAY.

My boyfriend is not mentioning every day how much he hates cheaters and then goes cheats on me. My ROOMMATE is the one who cheated, not my boyfriend. And he was really surprised she would do that, and so was I, because my roommate is a really sweet girl who seems as if she couldn't hurt a fly. And my boyfriend and me both thought that her and her boyfriend were happy. They have been together for 2,5 months only and all of this came very very to surprise. Of course my boyfriend is angry at her - mainly he was angry because it seemed at first as if she wasn't going to tell her boyfriend, and my boyfriend knew we would have another couples dinner sooner or later, and he couldn't stand the idea of having to look him in the eye - knowing what he knows. Both of our boyfriends are Italian, so they are quite passionate and are very family oriented. I am quite surprised my roommate's boyfriend didn't dump her, but I think he just really loves her and doesn't want to lose her, even though it is going to be really hard for him. .

Why do you get all bent out of shape, I am the only one on here that defended your friendship with this girl and told you to support through doing the right thing.

 

No it's not. It's called trust. If I go into a relationship always fearing my partner is going to cheat or if I constantly think, well, he might cheat anyway, what kind of relationship is that? Not a happy one. if you are always paranoid of what could happen, then you have some serious issues. Live, for once. Of course you have no guarantee in life, but if you can't trust a person, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with them. Having faith in someone is not naive, it's what should be the norm. But people are paranoid and twisted and always see the worst in people. I have been cheated on and I have been dumped and hurt and what not, but if I go through life being resentful or jaded, then I'll never be happy..

You completely missed what I was saying because you live in a black and white world. When I say it's naive of you to say your boyfriend will never cheat on you I am NOT saying he will cheat for god sake !!!! What I am saying is in life never take anything for GRANTED!!! not with your boyfriend, or your family or your health. I am not telling you to be worry he will cheat, I am telling you to open your mind and to be aware that in life we never know what the future holds!!!

 

By the way, you've been dating your boyfriend for what? 4 months? Are you official now or he's still giving you the go around?

 

Now you're saying your room-mate had been dating this guy for 2.5 months???

 

This entire drama is over a dude your room-mate has been dating for 2 months?????

[lamaga]

Why do you get all bent out of shape, I am the only one on here that defended your friendship with this girl and told you to support through doing the right thing.

 

You completely missed what I was saying because you live in a black and white world. When I say it's naive of you to say your boyfriend will never cheat on you I am NOT saying he will cheat for god sake !!!! What I am saying is in life never take anything for GRANTED!!! not with your boyfriend, or your family or your health. I am not telling you to be worry he will cheat, I am telling you to open your mind and to be aware that in life we never know what the future holds!!!

 

By the way, you've been dating your boyfriend for what? 4 months? Are you official now or he's still giving you the go around?

 

Now you're saying your room-mate had been dating this guy for 2.5 months???

 

This entire drama is over a dude your room-mate has been dating for 2 months?????

 

 

I am getting out of shape because the thread is going berserk. I appreciate your posts from earlier nevertheless. But what you just said about not taking things for granted is essentially the same thing I just wrote - except I wrote it from the perspective of the glass being half full and you of the glass being half empty.

And yes, the drama is about a guy who she has been seeing for 2,5 months. Which makes it even the more ridiculous that she already cheated on him twice (!). It's one of the main reasons also why I am so angry about her not setting her priorities straight.

 

Besides, my boyfriend and me have been together for 5 months, and yes, we have been official for quite a few months and very happy besides all this drama with my roommate. Just tonight he called me to be ready in a pretty dress tomorrow evening for him to pick me up to a fancy restaurant, something he hasn't done in a good while (we are both students and quite broke, but yay, thanks to his big Italian family who sent him Easter money, yay capitalism, this is happening!)... I am not doubting him or our relationship and my main concern whilst opening this thread really was about my friendship with my roommate and also slightly how it affected my relationship. How long she has been with her boyfriend is irrelevant. Cheating is cheating. You don't know, maybe they are going to get married one day and have kids, we don't know. Love comes in all sorts of forms and shapes. This guy is great and they had amazing potential, she ****ed up. Of course it's sad... What can I say... I hope they make it.

[kaylan]

Wow at the wisdom in this post. Read this and read it again until you understand it backwards OP.

 

Ridiculous, well maybe but it certainly is a possiblity.

What wisdom? That Gaeta married an abusive hypocrite? Just because she married a hypocrite, doesnt mean that OPs bf isnt sincere in his beliefs. You guys are trying to hard to create more negative drama.

My thoughts too. That anger and distaste OP's bf has for the girl who cheated could soon turn into angry passionate lust, and that can happen even if he doesn't want it to happen. OP I suggest you keep your bf away from this girl no matter what.

Some of you are ridiculous. I hope this was sarcasm, because its stupid to make the stretch that because someone abhors cheating and dislikes deceitful people, that it must mean they are secretly attracted to such people.

 

Are you serious? Id have reacted similar to OPs bf, minus ignoring my gf. And I would have lost much respect for the roommate especially if I thought her bf was a great guy. This wouldnt mean I was attracted to her at all. And tbh, I couldnt sleep with a woman I didnt respect.

 

So people can stop in their tracks with this tripe.

Boundaries are important in determining the health of a relationship. Boundaries clarify where a friend stops and where you begin, which problems belong to you and which problems belong to them. We need boundaries to be a good friend with anyone.

 

Friends support and comfort each other all the time. That doesn't mean the troubles of a friend should be brought into your own relationship. You can be a friend without needing to defend them to a spouse, supporting and enabling them in their terrible decisions, or placing yourself in the middle of a friend's relationship. Lamaga has the right to choose her friends. If her boyfriend doesn't approve she doesn't need to justify that friendship with him let alone revolve her relationship around that friend's infidelity.

 

And yes, who we willingly include as friends absolutely does reflect on our own character. Does that make anyone a bad person? Not at all. Is Lamaga lucky for having a relationship because of who her friends are? No. She's lucky to still have a relationship despite her poor boundaries. This entire situation could have been resolved from a single sentence without escalating further. You do realize that, right?

Dude get out with this garbage.

 

Since when is giving your friend a shoulder to cry on poor boundaries? The speculative cow-plop responses now are bordering on troll bait.

 

Plus the boundaries were already crossed when the roommate slept with OPs good friend in their apartment, and then went to OP about the situation.

 

All in all, some of you need to shut up about this. The thread has run its course and I advise OP to click the Alert option so mods can lock it. People are basically whining and b!tching for no reason now. The roommate came clean, OP is better with her bf, and now its time to move on and let both couples do their own thing.

Edited April 24, 2014 by kaylan

[Cpt]

Kaylan we're all entitled to our own opinions, however ridiculous they may be to another person. Its fine that you disagree with some of us.

 

Now what I don't appreciate is being told that I am a "ridiculous person" by some moderator-wannabe keyboard warrior. The real moderators would not take a liking to those kinds of comments about others.

 

 

 

OP albeit our abrasive posts, all we're trying to really say is just be careful with this situation and approach with an open mind.