mortensorchid Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 I am asking the men as well as the women out there what to do about this. I think both genders know what I'm talking about when I say this. For the last few weeks/months I have been seeing this one guy. What I know about him thusfar is good. He said we are friends when we are introduced to other parties, which I am fine with. He is a good communicator (I tell him I have things to work on for classes so I can't go out that night, he says ok. He said he hurt himself while moving furniture, so we're not getting together that night, I say that's fine.) He has things going for him, he just bought a house, he seems like he's in a good place mentally and physically, he has a job, and he treats me well so far. The problem? I have been in the game long enough now to know that if the man has not said "I love you" after a certain point in time, he will not say it. He just won't. We've been officially unofficial (ha ha ha) since roughly February, but we'd known each other since December. Am I just being paranoid or silly? Hope someone can tell me. If not being paranoid or silly, then tell me what to do. Cut him loose and look around more? Do nothing? Need some help.
WhatASituation Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 After only a few months? In one relationship it took me 6 months+ and when I said it, I really meant it! I think it takes longer for men, sure it's a generality but I think it's generally true.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 He said we are friends when we are introduced to other parties, which I am fine with. We've been officially unofficial (ha ha ha) since roughly February, but we'd known each other since December. What does this mean? It sounds like the relationship is vaguely defined. I think that when a guy really likes you, he makes it clear to you and others that you are officially his girlfriend. If there's any "confusion", he's not that into you, not ready to commit, or something else unsavory.
mammasita Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Who's to say if he doesn't say it by a certain point he won't? Sure, if we're talking a year I'd be more willing to buy that, but you say you've been "dating" since February and not even "officially" at that. To me it sounds like there might be a few more things in your "relationship" to iron out if this is the guy you'd like to hear "I love you" from. As things stand right now, I'd say it's waaaaaaay too soon and honestly wouldn't expect it since you're introducing each other as "friends". 1
MidwestUSA Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Any the two month mark? Too soon. Especially given the 'officially unofficial' status. Can you define? That you're thinking about ending it over this tells me there will probably be more things come to light that fall in the category of 'mismatched expectations'.
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