collegewrestler15 Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 So the title is pretty self explanatory. If anyone reads my previous post, it might give a little bit of background to the situation. My ex and I honestly didn't end on bad terms or anything but have not seen or hung out with each other for about a month. Last night she comes to a party that I'm at and we both got intoxicated and eventually ended up having sex for the first time since we've been broken up. Now I haven't said anything to her today or anything like that, but I'm just really confused by all of this and don't know if I should contact her about it or let her contact me.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 So the title is pretty self explanatory. If anyone reads my previous post, it might give a little bit of background to the situation. My ex and I honestly didn't end on bad terms or anything but have not seen or hung out with each other for about a month. Last night she comes to a party that I'm at and we both got intoxicated and eventually ended up having sex for the first time since we've been broken up. Now I haven't said anything to her today or anything like that, but I'm just really confused by all of this and don't know if I should contact her about it or let her contact me. Just sounds like you had drunk sex with a girl you use to date. I wouldnt read anymore into it.
Author collegewrestler15 Posted April 21, 2014 Author Posted April 21, 2014 Well we haven't exactly moved on from each other. So we had been in some contact before this happened. No as if she was totally out of my life. She had said that she was not against giving us another chance in the future and I honestly didn't think too much about that notion. But after all of this I'm confused and can't really read the situation.
Simon Phoenix Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Seems like part of the college experience. This happened to me with ex-girlfriends in college. Unless she indicates otherwise, it was just a bout of ex sex brought about by alcohol. 1
TaraMaiden Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Allcohol is a crap investment when you're nursing a wounded heart. It messes with your mind and you don't think straight. Answer these questions - and be absolutely, blindingly honest: Would you have had sex with her if you were sober and she was drunk? Now - What would have happened if YOU had been drunk, and SHE had been sober? Right. So it was a slip-up. A stupid act which- please trust us on this - means - absolutely - nothing. Read the no Contact Guide (link in my signature), live, and learn. In order to clarify your boundaries, and get rid of any lasting confusion, you really should put it into diligent practice from this instant on. 2
Author collegewrestler15 Posted April 21, 2014 Author Posted April 21, 2014 Thank you guys for all of your input. This girl was the first love of my life so its just been confusing and rough to get over all of this. But you're definitely right about going NC. Its really the only way.
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