Author Sundancev1 Posted May 15, 2014 Author Posted May 15, 2014 Really, OP. He slandered you and treated you like crap and you tried to say hi at the beginning and bye at the end of the night. Have you heard the saying, "You teach people how to treat you." You've taught him that you're meek, a pushover and a glutton for punishment. You taught him that he can do whatever he wants to you and you'll validate his existence. He probably gets a rise out of jabbing at you because he knows he can affect you. And you have crap friends that engage with him and share in the drama. I can't believe your friends didn't stand up to him and shove him away. You need an overhaul -- new work environment, new friends and new found confidence and self-esteem. I simply respond with a hi and bye because we do work together and I want to be able to have a professional relationships. Maybe I shouldn't but is it not the bigger thing to do ? In regards to the friends, most of them were work colleagues who don't want to take sides so I don't blame them for not standing up for me. Some of them are also friends of my work friends. Should I go to my managers again or ignore ?
Zahara Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 I simply respond with a hi and bye because we do work together and I want to be able to have a professional relationships. Maybe I shouldn't but is it not the bigger thing to do ? In regards to the friends, most of them were work colleagues who don't want to take sides so I don't blame them for not standing up for me. Some of them are also friends of my work friends. Should I go to my managers again or ignore ? No need to respond with hi and bye. You communicate at work ONLY when it is relevant to work. Ex, please send report to ABC, thanks. Yes, ex, I will make copies of XYZ and mail them out to Accounting. That is communication within the workplace. Hi and bye does not fall in that category and "the bigger thing to do" isn't applicable when someone is treating you like crap. The thing is you want to cry to your manager but then you also feed into his dysfunction. First, you stop engaging with him with the niceties. If this happens again in the workplace, you make a complaint. These friends don't have to take sides but they also don't have to partake.
Zahara Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 So my ex and I ( both 22) work together and after our breakup (she dumped me, ill be honest and say I was a dickhead after the breakup but didn't do anything out of the ordinary for breakups) she spread lies and rumors around the workplace while I was overseas. So my ex and I have been broken up for 9 months now. We are both 22, he dumped me and we work together and attend the same school. Since our breakup he has spread lies to my friends, family and work colleagues. Why is he spreading lies and trying to humiliate me 9 months after he dumped me ? he told me he was over me a week after the breakup. ??? (10 charac) 2
jbelle6 Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 ??? (10 charac) Was wondering the same, and the bikini pic thing, not sure why it switched to He lol 1
Wings Of Love Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 Was wondering the same, and the bikini pic thing, not sure why it switched to He lol And he/she posted in April that they'd been split for 6 months, now in May they've been split for 9 months? Something's weird here... 1
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