lionheart153 Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Hi I am just getting back into the dating scene and I am not 100% sure I know what I am doing, I met a girl through a friend and I am curious to know if she is showing any interest I thought I'd ask here to see if I can get opinions. I met her from my friend when we were heading out one night to the bar, she was nice and she doesn't drink which I liked. I started to chat her up, asking her what she does and so forth, we talked for a bit but the music was pretty loud so she said that it was hard to talk here. We danced a bit nothing crazy, later we went to another bar one a bit quieter, she was a bit far for me so I didn't manager to be able to talk to her really either. danced a bit again, and then we to another bar, we talked a bit again. I took a leap of faith and asked for her number saying we might go to karaoke the next day, she gave me her number and she had to leave early. She gave me a hug to say goodbye but she also gave my friend one to. I texted her to have a safe drive home and msged me back later thanking me for driving her friends home and that she was home safe. and she hoped to see me tomorrow. So the next night we met up at the karaoke bar with my friend and her and another guy. she hugged me again and my friend and we just hung out singing songs. I sat beside her and we chated a bit but it was pretty loud so that didn't go to well. I did notice she didn't mind sitting really close to me or touching me. She kept saying she was cold, and I didn't clue in enough to give her my jacket... dumb me. So we finished karaoke, and she was tired so we said our goodbyes, again she hugged me and then hugged my friend. I msged her later that night just saying thanks for coming out and I had fun and we should do it again sometime. She responded with saying thanks for the invite and it was fun and for sure the next morning. So now I'm just trying to keep the conversation going but she responds pretty slow and I did think she was interested at first but now I am not so sure.
sagetalk Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 I'm going to blow your mind here for a second with a wild concept, so brace yourself. Are you ready? Ask her out on a date and you'll find out quickly how she feels. 5
Frank2thepoint Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 I'm going to blow your mind here for a second with a wild concept, so brace yourself. Are you ready? Ask her out on a date and you'll find out quickly how she feels. Kablooey! To boot, when you ask her out on a date, make sure it's just you and her. Don't invite her out with other friends. And don't take her to a bar or karaoke on the first date either. Get some coffee, tea, pizza, or walk in the park.
Poppyolive Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 from what you described i think shes into you. I think you should take the lead like the above posts say....dont over do it with contacting her.....ask her out for a coffee and walk. you will be able to gage better if there is something there rather than trying to see it in loud bars, karaoke and groups of people. good luck! 1
tekkenfan2 Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Question: Is the friend that introduced you to her a guy? (It looks like it is but I was unsure) From the way you describe it, sounds like she is into you man. Like the other guys said ask her out, If possible you may not want to do it infront of people, might want to ask her to speak to her in private when you guys go out (not over text). you can also get info by gauging her reactions to this.
Author lionheart153 Posted April 21, 2014 Author Posted April 21, 2014 I'm going to blow your mind here for a second with a wild concept, so brace yourself. Are you ready? Ask her out on a date and you'll find out quickly how she feels. Ya that sounds easy to say but it's easier said that done. I just got out of a serious relationship of 3 years who was my best friend for another 3 years before. We were engaged and I got dumped. So I'm a little rusty at asking girls out. Kablooey! To boot, when you ask her out on a date, make sure it's just you and her. Don't invite her out with other friends. And don't take her to a bar or karaoke on the first date either. Get some coffee, tea, pizza, or walk in the park. Yea I do want to ask her out and yes I plan to do something where I can talk to her from what you described i think shes into you. I think you should take the lead like the above posts say....dont over do it with contacting her.....ask her out for a coffee and walk. you will be able to gage better if there is something there rather than trying to see it in loud bars, karaoke and groups of people. good luck! I plan to ask her out maybe sometime this week, and see what happens. 1. Boy meets Girl he likes. Boy ask Girl out and Girl says yes. 2. Boy keeps asking Girl out till Boy no longer likes Girl or Girl says no. Repeat Step 1. 3. Boy keeps asking Girl out and Girl says yes. Boy and Girl fall in love and marry. 4. Boy keeps asking Wife out till Boy no longer likes Wife or Wife says no. Repeat Step 1. Again I it's easier said then done Question: Is the friend that introduced you to her a guy? (It looks like it is but I was unsure) From the way you describe it, sounds like she is into you man. Like the other guys said ask her out, If possible you may not want to do it infront of people, might want to ask her to speak to her in private when you guys go out (not over text). you can also get info by gauging her reactions to this. So I need to clarify a few things. the friend that introduced me is a girl, we were pals from a long time ago and I ran into her when I started going out again. the friend that she is also hugging is my own friend that has been going out with me and he is a guy. I am curious that if she hugged me because she may be interested or she just hugs people. My buddy thinks she only hugged him because she didnt want it to seem obvious. But she did initiate the hugs So at the bar, it was me and my buddy, and the old friend of mine with the new girl and one more that doesn't play a part in the story. At Karaoke it was me and my buddy again and my old friend again and the new girl and one other new guy. I do want to do it in person, but I don't think I will have that chance, would it be so off to text her to go out for coffee or something?
LustAppeal Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Love the comments in this post. To the OP: Her getting comfortable with touching you after only the second time meeting is a good sign. Watch her body language, touching is known as Kino and can be escalated in a sexual manner if done right. It's also what allot of shy guys take WAY to slow, only to get friend zoned in the end... Out of all the information you gave us I don't think anyone on this site could read her mind. You're two options are; ask her out or wonder "What if." Kind of like what happens if you see a cute girl in the store and want to start smalltalk, but you stop yourself and the rest of the day she's stuck in your head when getting a straight "No" and allowing you to move on would be so much more satisfying in the end. As for her texting slow, maybe she's busy. Don't start jumping to conclusions over text... If you start now you're going to have a rough relationship with who ever you start dating.
slizl Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Maybe I'm an alcoholic, but I stay away from girls that don't drink. 1
tekkenfan2 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Yeah if you absolutely don't think you can get her alone then ask over text. You probably wanna want to wait until she replies to a prior text to make sure you get her attention haha. Just be like "Hey, do you wanna <insert activity here>? I like taking to you but I usually cant in the environments we usually end up in." Or not like that, haha whatever you feel confident saying
Author lionheart153 Posted April 22, 2014 Author Posted April 22, 2014 (edited) Lol so it feels like a failed effort, I started msging her today again, I got a feeling that she just wasn't good at caring a conversation and I was about to head the gym so I said that I would talk to her later. She answered with "oh. OK:). have a good night and a good workout." which I felt was odd so I just took a shot in the dark and asked her if she had plans this wedensday, she responded after quite a bit of time and said she had plans and "what's up". I told her straight out that I was wondering if she would like to grab coffee or something, and it was ok if she was busy and she just never replied. Moving on then. So I just finished this and she finally msg back saying if I am free thursday instead. Is it a bad sign if she takes really long time to reply? I feel like that is a bad sign Edited April 22, 2014 by lionheart153
ChooseTruth Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Lol so it feels like a failed effort, I started msging her today again, I got a feeling that she just wasn't good at caring a conversation and I was about to head the gym so I said that I would talk to her later. She answered with "oh. OK:). have a good night and a good workout." which I felt was odd so I just took a shot in the dark and asked her if she had plans this wedensday, she responded after quite a bit of time and said she had plans and "what's up". I told her straight out that I was wondering if she would like to grab coffee or something, and it was ok if she was busy and she just never replied. Moving on then. So I just finished this and she finally msg back saying if I am free thursday instead. Is it a bad sign if she takes really long time to reply? I feel like that is a bad sign My thought is she is just trying to figure out her schedule. It's hard not to over think things, try not to get paranoid here. It sounds like it's going well so far!
sagetalk Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Is it a bad sign if she takes really long time to reply? I feel like that is a bad sign No, get a grip on yourself.
Phantom888 Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Not everyone checks their phone every second. Sometimes it may take hour to respond back because her class or work place doesn't allow texting. I think it's a good sign that she tells you she is busy and suggests an alternate day. That is KEY. If she said she was busy, and left it at that, then it would mean she's not interested.
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