Discover Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 I haven't been here for a while now. I was doing okay until some things happened. For example, the fact that she wanted us to be back together, the few times she said it to my face and wanted me back. We broke up in January, two weeks after our two year anniversary...I was/am/hope I am doing okay and I am definitely doing better but recently I have been wondering.. Should I call her? Just to talk to her to hear her or anything...I don't know Today I wonder the most because, it is Easter, so should I greet her? Happy Easter to all of you!
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 I haven't been here for a while now. I was doing okay until some things happened. For example, the fact that she wanted us to be back together, the few times she said it to my face and wanted me back. We broke up in January, two weeks after our two year anniversary...I was/am/hope I am doing okay and I am definitely doing better but recently I have been wondering.. Should I call her? Just to talk to her to hear her or anything...I don't know Today I wonder the most because, it is Easter, so should I greet her? Happy Easter to all of you! No not at all. That won't solve or do anything. In all honesty, if she wanted to be with you, she would. Words are just words at the end of the day. Enjoy Easter.
Trovador Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 You are not doing good, obviously, or wouldn't be asking for advice... Do not call. You are unable to handle right the situation; even if she wanted to get together, you still have some healing to do (the same as your ex...)... When you are totally healed, you won't be asking second thoughts like you do now... Do something else, something physical preferably, take your dog outside, jog for a while, go to the gym, walk with a friend...
zen2475 Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Can you give us more information about what happened when she said she wanted you back? Did you refuse her?
learning_slowly Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Sounds like you're going through a tough patch. If you ring her and it's bad news, you'll probably feel worse, and the chances are that she's moved on. Do yourself a favour and find somebody new without the baggage. A relationship should be about fun, not worrying about what to do. So many people are settling. I've been split for about 2 months, and I get really bad days, but do I really want to be with somebody that has made me feel this way? No, let's realise we have 1 life and get somebody in it that's worth it.
Author Discover Posted April 20, 2014 Author Posted April 20, 2014 Can you give us more information about what happened when she said she wanted you back? Did you refuse her? Yea,I did refuse because I knew it won't be the same and I still know it..The talk was so annoying, inside I felt so hurt that I felt angry...but in the end I showed nothing but being the same person that I have always been..I really don't know if I should be with someone that once let me go when it was always "Us, Us, Us " ... The hardest thing is that I know I can be with her, or I knew.. So I got myself thinking whether I did something wrong when she made me feel all this pain... To be honest I feel lonely, man...really lonely recently but I don't want to be with her just to be killing my loneliness so...yea... I guess I am really annoyed by the thought of sharing her, my heart is...in my mind I realize everything but it feels so bad that sometimes I forget my resolves and the pain is back... I just wonder, why do I still want her back after all this..Actually I wonder if I want her back at all...
destroyed4sho Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 You should call if you feel you are totally over her and want to be platonic friends. Would you feel comfortable if she started talking about her current love life? I think it is too early, maybe wait about a year... Otherwise, you will be disappointed and feel worse afterwards.
Trovador Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 Personally, I find useless to contact an ex when I consider myself over her... I have a lot of exes and I wouldn't want to be platonic friends with any of them... Humans as we are (fallible and fools most of the time, imo) we might be falling again for an ex.... I burn those dangerous bridges...
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