funnyman7878 Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 (edited) I know everyone says one has to move on etc. but as most know this is easier said than done. In my case she was a huge part of my life for the last two and a half years. We have taken 5 or 6 vacations together, seen each other virtually everyday (we were not living together but we used to sleep with each other everyday either me going to her place for the evening after work or she coming over to mine)... doing everything together and now it's all gone, like a switch turned off suddenly. Our relationship had it's ups and downs but we were mostly happy and loved each other's company. We had a huge amount of compatibility in interests so we were almost always onboard in our planning of things to do. Our parting was due to a very unfortunate circumstance (I will not rehash that all over again as I mentioned it in an earlier thread). Now, I find myself alone and crushed. My FB is filled with memories of all the adventures we have pursued and I have mementos everywhere in my apartment that I just can't seem to put away...it's just too painful for me to close that chapter so I am giving it a little more time. I guess some part of me wishes that things could get back to the way they were even though it was me who initiated the break up. Anyway sorry for the rant... getting down to my question... We were supposed to plan a vacation to Iceland during July 4 week (10 days) and after the breakup (3 weeks ago) I didn't pursue it. Now I am wondering if I should just plan and go by myself anyway. I am wondering whether I will enjoy it or will it remind me of the fact that I am without her? Iceland is a country where you drive around to remote spots exploring nature... one way I see it that I can use the opportunity to reflect and find peace, the other angle is that I may feel incredibly lonely as well. Should I do it or give it more time? Edited April 20, 2014 by funnyman7878
CarrieT Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Personally, I would plan to go somewhere else entirely. If you go to a place you had planned to go as a couple, your mind will constantly be reverting to the "WE would be doing this now," and if only "WE were still together in this place I had imagined the two of us being..." Pick some place entirely different and create your own memories alone. I did that with my toxic Ex. WE were supposed to go to the Maldives. Instead, I went to Scotland on my own... Much happier in the long run. 3
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 The ex and I had a holiday booked... I still went and it was not until the last day that I started to enjoy myself... honestly I just look back and think what a waste of money... Id love to go now though that Im in a better state of mind! x
Sundancev1 Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Well I had a trip to Europe booked with my ex and she broke up with me a month before that. Instead I ended up booking a trip to Africa for 2 months and it was the best thing I ever did. I had fun, got with other ladies and forgot about my ex. I say go on a holiday but not to the place you guys planned. Good luck
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