Why is honesty such a big problem with dating/relationships?

[joystickd]

It extends beyond just being honest with another person. I mean think about it you have scenarios where people just are not honest with themselves like:

 

1. Woman is in an FWB, an OW, or in a relationship with a guy that is not good for her. It may be either he is seeing other women, married or stated he is not looking for anything long term. Woman usually mentions wanting more and he says he likes what they have now. She honestly knows it's not going anywhere.

 

2. Men their scenario usually involves a woman that drags out the getting to know you process, friendzoned, or with a user. I am not one against getting to know someone or having female friends, but after a certain amount of time you know what you want and dragging things out serves no purpose but the woman's. I have no problems with men having genuine friendships with women but not a friendzone. If you meet someone and become friends that is one thing but no man should settle for being the consolation prize.

 

 

These are usually scenarios where the person should be honest with themselves and end it. Usually by the time they get the courage to end it they end up taking it out on the next person by making them wait for sex, pushing for sex early, being cheap, or even continuing the same mistake.

[xxoo]

Fear of loss.

[Charlie Harper]

People don't like to feel lonely or alone, most think that seeing a lot of guys/women equals success or social advance. Deep down its just insecurity, the inability to be confortable with yourself and make a relationship based on WHO YOU REALLY ARE, accept and be accepted... but 99 times out of a 100 people exaggerate, make them more interesting than they really are use crap tacticts to be more interesting.... as Sarah Maclahan says: "You make lies for all that you lack" So people no matter what age will NOT BE HONEST because they are insecure and hate rejection.

[notserene]

insecurity or fear of being alone?

[mrnova66]

People don't like to feel lonely or alone, most think that seeing a lot of guys/women equals success or social advance. Deep down its just insecurity, the inability to be confortable with yourself and make a relationship based on WHO YOU REALLY ARE, accept and be accepted... but 99 times out of a 100 people exaggerate, make them more interesting than they really are use crap tacticts to be more interesting.... as Sarah Maclahan says: "You make lies for all that you lack" So people no matter what age will NOT BE HONEST because they are insecure and hate rejection.

People don't like to feel lonely or alone^^^Oh really. I rather be alone than be used up or lead on any day. I can deal with being alone. Or even lonely for that matters. That is what hobbies are for. But being lied to or lead on to believe others. Actually I enjoy being alone. Less heart ache. I found out 99.999999999% of people out there are all for their selves and what they can get their hands on. Then once they use you they dump you for the next person.

[mrnova66]

Seeing / Hearing / Reading the amount of abuse and s.hit people will put up with to avoid being alone... I still find myself being shocked / amazed.

 

To some, being along is worse than death itself.

 

An example of what I am talking about...

 

 

 

(excerpts above taken from here ---> Is my ex a pervert and how do I regain some dignity after humiliating myself?)

I agree. There is something wrong with a person that will live like that just from being alone. I will never live that way. I been alone all my life and people look at me like I have problems. I think people that get involved in abuse relationships have major issues