very-confused-girl Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 I really have a feeling people here are completely responding to you regarding something completely else almost like if you have posted completely a different problem. I read some of your posts and from what I read I really can say that you are overanalyzing things too much, because I have a little bit of this problem and I know how I am and you remind me of myself very much. My problem is not only focused on my boyfriend, I would even say that with him my overthinking is not that bad, but to give you an example - my brother goes to a disco and does not come back home on time...I cant sleep, I have to call him, to make sure he is ok, because I straightaway start to think something bad has happened to him...so I know what are you talking about. You are obviously very anxious person, you see into things deeper than other people, you are probably extremely sensitive, but sometimes I believe you see in things something, that is not there! You have to stop this otherwise you are going to 1) get mad, 2) turn off the people who love you, 3) die from stress. You have to relax, because this is not healthy. I also worry to much about things and it costs me so much nerves. My friends never worry about stuff, they always achieve kind of same results as me (for example in university), but they are happier because they are more relaxed. Worries and stress could be drive energy in life but not if it is too much, and in your case it is. You have to become more casual. I know it easier said than done but you have to try somehow. What has helped me to become a bit more casual - first of all I had situations when I overstressed myself, I lost weight, I was overanalyzing everything and in the end I got SOOOO SOOO tired of everything that I didnt care anymore about stuff Or I just tried to sorf of step back and see the things from different perspective. Once you start having your insecure overanalytical moments, you have to occupy yourself with something immediately. People who are occupied usually dont have a time to think about bullsh*t. Imagine how you gonna be like once you are 50? If you already getting worried about stuff and you are so young, what about then? If you have "your moments" give a call to your female friend to have a chit-chat, go to aerobic class, clean up your flat, do anything that would occupy you. Also try to be more social and hang out more with friends, it could help you to become more confident, you will surround yourself with people who like you and it will help you to become less dependant on your boyfriend.
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