Gher2154 Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Here is a prologue to everything guys. It's gonna be long, and I need of your expert advice. Hey thanks for looking. So since 2012, my buddy would always invite me to his parties, marriages, birthdays, and other events, and I would go to the them. He introduced me to one of his cousins and I immediately fell for her. The whole day we spent just chilling on his bed, getting close, and just giving each other random but tight hugs. This happened every time we would see each other. Her name is Paola. Last time I saw her was on April 4, 2014, at a party. Remember that date, it's crucial. So in October 2, 2013 I met someone named Andrea and we fell for each other too. We dated and broke up in December and we got back I'm March 18 of this year. Well we broke up because I just really wasn't sure about the relationship and I promised her I would not leave her but you know I did. My friends would tell me she would flirt with others, and even ended up kissing another guy. She admitted it too. Well I like to party to paisa or Mexican music, get some soda as drinks, and have a good time. Andrea is socially awkward and is really insecure and has depression with anxiety, and she hates everything that has to do with Mexicans even tho she is half Mexican. Well we got back together because we always just end up having feelings for each other. We broke up like 4 times in our 3 month relationship. Our last one was the longest. When we got back together she is really different and seems less insecure and has not haven breakdowns in such a long time, and we both regret hurting each other. I told her I would never break up with her again because I was so happy to have her back. Back to Paola, we hung during the months me and Andrea were not together and we had a blast. We would do everything together and we have a loooot of things in common. But ever since I got back with my girlfriend we barely talk. So we saw each other again one day, April 4, 2014 at a party my best friend invited me to,and we just totally were together that whole day. We walked around and flirted and we would just stare at each other that whole time. I know she wants me and I want her. My friend told me that she even is telling everyone I am her new boyfriend, and my friend knows about Andrea too. So now I'm stuck. My girlfriend Andrea is really happy with me I can tell cuz she subtweets about me all the time, got a bit clingy and just keeps talking to me all day. Like I said, I promised her so many things that we would last more than next year and we cod have future together. But I like Paola because we are just perfect for each other. I'm confused I can't let me girlfriend down again and I can't miss a golden opportunity. I want both of them but I know there can only be one. I'm stuck and I don't plan on cheating on my girlfriend. My friend also tells me that Andrea isn't for me because I need to start focusing on my happiness too. My friend also told me that during our breakup up she would make out with a lot of guys and tells me that I'm just that other guy in the list, and that she is using me for self pleasure. And guys I like to put others before me because if I was conceited I would of left Andrea for Paola. The only bad thing about Paola is that I won't be able to see her everyday and I see my girlfriend Andrea almost everyday. I'm just stuck on who to choose. I'm just a 16 year old boy? What should I know? I need the advice from someone experienced about this, preferably an adult, thank again for your time. So I broke up with my girlfriend since we had a big fight because she said she felt insecure that I was gonna leave her. I swear I didn't anything to make her feel that way. I am now charged with my own guilt, but it slowly goes away day after day. This is the teenage love years and everyone's gonna get hurt sometimes, and I want to protect myself from that horrible feeling. Now Paola. I'm single with no strings attached. Obviously my first move is to get with her. After the party in April 4, 2014, me would text each other the whole day with fast replies, nonstop. So yeah we've been basically crushing on each other for almost 3 years now, and finally on April 18, 2014, I made my first move. It was planned that Friday to watch paranormal activity 4 around 10:30. I got out of work and headed to my best friends house. I got there and I saw her, she saw me and the awkwardness began. We barely talked to each other until the movie finished, and everyone else was sleep. The room was dark, lights off, around 12:30 am in my best friends living room. It was just me and Paola all alone. We began just playing with each other like tickling each other or saying stuff. Well then she reminded me that night, hey, when will you tell me that secret you said you were gonna tell me since last year? Sorry for the slight plot twist but I found out that keeping a girl interested is by staying a mystery, I guess. I'm only 16, I'm stupid and unexperienced with love like you older adults. Well I should of told her at the party of April 4, 2014, but I wimped out, and plus, I was still dating Andrea. Well, we started getting really extremely close to each other, and my heart started to beat fast like an oil pump. I barely could see her face but I could feel her hand trembling since I grabbed it and interlocked it with her. She whispered, you need to tell me now. We touched noses and were on the verge of kissing. I told her, that I want us to be together, but I'm not sure of it'll work out. She moved he head away and look somewhere else, hesitated for bit as we sat on the couch alone in the dark. She looked at me and it said it wouldn't. I could understand since we live 10 miles from each other, but I'm wondering if there was more. That feeling was still in the air, and no lie, we made out for 3 hours straight. Sometimes during she would tell me no, this is weird, seconds later returning to my lips. I gave her a hickey, the best one ever she said, and had a few hands slip in and out of the clothes. Then when it was over, she looked sad. I told her what's wrong, but she said everything was fine. I previously knew that her last boyfriend was 5 months ago. Reason they broke up is that she said that he stopped caring. It hurt her a lot she said.Horrible, horrible. She had no other commitments with anyone else. I'm not sure why she felt that way. In the morning, she returned a bit like herself, started messing with each other again. Well my friend came out with a big grin on his face, guessing he knew what we did last night. Well she left for St. George that morning. She texted minutes later after she left saying if I already miss her, and acted like if we were in a relationship. Then during the day she started acting weird. She took way longer to respond than normal, and smaller texts. I told myself, dude calm yourself, play the game and take long yourself. So we basically didn't talk as much. Later around 7:30 pm, she texted me, let's make a deal. Let's just be friends with benefits, it'll be easier. I got excited of that thought. Later on, I found out the true meaning. All I am for friends with benefits is that there is no pressure or real commitment, you can still have that fun you want with that person, but can meet other people. But also it means game over for you, my friend. It's like a level above the highest friendzone level for me. I want something more with her. A real relationship. But I'm not sure if the friends with benefits will lead me anywhere more with her. Please help?
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