Is it true that the #1 reason men cheat is because...

[joystickd]

Women cheat too but if you look at the statistics on % of people that cheated on their married partner, men far outnumber women.

It's because men get caught more. Come on! There are women that have cheated for years and took the secret to the grave. I've been an OM. Men see sex as sex and don't get emotionally tied up like women do and it makes women easier to get away with cheating

 

Anyway with the whole past is the past thing going with women. How many are really gonna be honest about cheating? They don't want to be judged for it or seen as the bad guy.

[notserene]

It's because men get caught more. Come on! There are women that have cheated for years and took the secret to the grave. I've been an OM. Men see sex as sex and don't get emotionally tied up like women do and it makes women easier to get away with cheating

 

Anyway with the whole past is the past thing going with women. How many are really gonna be honest about cheating? They don't want to be judged for it or seen as the bad guy.

 

 

 

I thought I had plently of life experience but I've learned a lot in the short time I've been reading these boards.

 

It seems like OM are usually content to be getting sex from a married woman and don't push it (just like you described), while OW are either pushing or pining for the married man to leave his wife. Obviously there are exceptions...

 

I wonder how often the MM ends up confessing to his wife because the OW threatens to do it or because the OW is pushing and the MM figures confessing and dealing with the consequences is easier than continuing to be entangled with a woman who has gotten emotionally attached while he was primarily looking for sex?

[Woggle]

Women cheat too but if you look at the statistics on % of people that cheated on their married partner, men far outnumber women.

 

I would say it's about even these days.

[joystickd]

I thought I had plently of life experience but I've learned a lot in the short time I've been reading these boards.

 

It seems like OM are usually content to be getting sex from a married woman and don't push it (just like you described), while OW are either pushing or pining for the married man to leave his wife. Obviously there are exceptions...

 

I wonder how often the MM ends up confessing to his wife because the OW threatens to do it or because the OW is pushing and the MM figures confessing and dealing with the consequences is easier than continuing to be entangled with a woman who has gotten emotionally attached while he was primarily looking for sex?

This is the thing when it comes to cheating a lot of women don't get. Men get caught usually because the OW puts them in a bad position. Most OW delude themselves into thinking they can have a relationship with this person and in a sense try to force his hand. This is why stats have more men cheating. Overall it's about even.

[LustAppeal]

I was in a relationship where the girl wouldn't give two s**ts about me, choosing friends and well almost everything over me. It made me emotionally confused, it made intimate moments feel like nothing real. I thought I was just been needy or clingy... In the end this neglect forced me to break up with her. I could see how some men would rather cheat then break up, at the time it was so hard for me to end it because I wanted it to work out SO BAD! But I NEEDED that emotional connection, I needed that real intimacy...

Saying that, my relationship was extremely hard. I ended it without cheating, or even considering being unfaithful. If I didn't want the girl I was with it would have made breaking up so much easier. So yes men/women use "neglect" as an excuse, but no I don't believe it's the real reason. If you cannot be honest in your relationship you're not ready for one, or you need out of your current one.

Abusive relationships are completely different. There's a reason most men/women feel they cannot leave an abusive relationship. It's hard for the ones who care about them, but in the end abusive relationships cause mental stress that can lead to illness. So that's different for sure.

 

Other than my small personal experience at a young age I have nothing more but my opinion.

[Woggle]

This is the thing when it comes to cheating a lot of women don't get. Men get caught usually because the OW puts them in a bad position. Most OW delude themselves into thinking they can have a relationship with this person and in a sense try to force his hand. This is why stats have more men cheating. Overall it's about even.

 

Very true. When set our sights on something we usually don't deviate from the plan. This is why OM don't usually go blabbing. They know what it is from the start and most don't get caught up.

[Charlie Harper]

As a guy who slept with a ton of married women (when I was young and single) I can tell you there are a TON of reasons why people cheat.

 

My perfect excesses for allegedly happy couples who would never cheat is this:

 

 

Do you love your husband?

 

YES

 

ok now imagine that your husband is your neighbor and you are married to another man who is difficult to talk with or has some important character flaw.

 

You meet your neighbor and have instant click with him, you get along fine and for some weird reason you talk often and you feel something different, your relationship with him s more fulfilling/understanding and fun than the one you have "home"...what do you do?

 

Ask your husband to move to another place?

Tell him you find your neighbor interesting and you may be falling for him?

Divorce with no warning?

Go to Counseling?

Cheat and see what happens ?

kill yourself because you made a bad choice years ago?

 

You would be surprised at the answers I get...

 

never think black and white because in regards to cheating there are a lot of grey areas...