Author suckerpunch55 Posted April 27, 2014 Author Posted April 27, 2014 Is she at all concerned that you might leave her? It would be strange if she were not. You have to do what you think is best, but my feeling is that you will not ever be comfortable until you know more about the affair. You might want to point out to her that the marriage is sliding toward oblivion because of her silence. YOU are the betrayed spouse and there can be no reconciliation without your agreement. My tells me that she want's our marriage to continue and has finally admitted she made a bad mistake with her affair, apparently at the time I was cold and indifferent towards her and she was feeling unloved and unwanted by me. Thinking back a few years I did have job and life issues at the time and being the person I am did not speak to anyone else about these problems, a close friend has told me recently that I am like a 'closed book' most of the time and it's extremely difficult to know whats happening in my head! I have taken a step forward in this mess and realize that some of my problems at the time may have contributed to my wife feeling lonely and unwanted and I guess a prime target for another man looking for a relationship. My wife will not tell me anything yet about the other man because I get so, so annoyed when I even think about him, so I don't know his personal circumstances, but I feel like lilling him at this moment in time, metaphorically of course.
Bryanp Posted April 27, 2014 Posted April 27, 2014 The OM did not take vows and make a commitment to you. Your wife did. Your anger is understandable but misplaced. She continues to refuse to be open and honest with you and thus continues to disrespect you and your feelings. If you do not respect yourself then who will?
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