SemperfiTodd Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 I'm 17, my gf is 16 and this is my first relationship. We've been dating for 6 months now and thought she's overall smart in school, pretty, is described as a sweet girl, gets along with everyone at school and in the family but she does some weird stuff. Such as it's not the first time she steals from a store and somehow is never caught, writes random stuff on walls or sometimes likes sneaking out late at night. She told me about once giving laxatives to a family dog long ago as a prank because it wouldn't shup up and it got sick for a couple days. But she was 11 then and no one found out it was her. Still, not sure if at that age you even do that as a prank. She comes from divorced parents. Not sure if this might have something to do with it. Sometimes I want to think this is just some type of rebellious phase she's going to and she'll one day get it out. I guess.
contact1 Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 I would agree with it just being of the age, being adventurous and such. You two are both still teenagers, have fun, live You know how they say "Youth is wasted on the young"? Don't be someone to waste it away
TaraMaiden Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 No, it's not a phase. Stealing is wrong and one day, she will get caught. Remember, people judge you by many things, including people you know. You'll be judged as 'that dumb gir's BF' - "why is he still with her?" "I think he might start it, and she goes along with it...." Not nice being tarred with the same brush. Imagine being with her when the cops strike and arrest her. You know what? They may well arrest you too as a possible accomplice. Dump her. She may be your first GF, but it's a poor choice, and you can do better. But at least have the decency to point out to her what her flaws are, and that they're not funny, and they're not clever. Which is why you're dumping her. She will probably be very derisive and rude, but that's just bravado and guilt. But it's better to distance yourself from this. Jeesh... theft and graffiti? Nice!! 1
Author SemperfiTodd Posted April 19, 2014 Author Posted April 19, 2014 Thank you TaraMaiden and I know it's going to be hard to dump her. We both say I love you to each other many times. Though those things she's doing are wrong, she also has nice stuff. Sometimes I like to think she can outgrow this. I guess I'm not thinking logical right now. Though yes I will have a discussion with her about it. You're right. I don't want to get in trouble because of her.
Valen Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 She sounds normal to me. She's only a teenager so there is plenty of room for her to mature and grow out of those naughty phases. I used to steal things from stores when I was a teen too. Now I pretty much scold people who steal things. What she did when she was 11 is just kid being stupid. So don't make too much of it. This is not a big issue. Just try and set an example for her to lead a honest life. 1
Author SemperfiTodd Posted April 19, 2014 Author Posted April 19, 2014 Good to hear you changed for the better Valen. I do have hopes this will happen to her too and that maybe her parents' divorce has affected her a lot. But I'll still talk to her about it.
TaraMaiden Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 Thank you TaraMaiden and I know it's going to be hard to dump her. We both say I love you to each other many times. Though those things she's doing are wrong, she also has nice stuff. Sometimes I like to think she can outgrow this. I guess I'm not thinking logical right now. Though yes I will have a discussion with her about it. You're right. I don't want to get in trouble because of her. Good idea to talk first, maybe. Tell her you don't understand why she needs to do this. It's wrong, it's not clever, and she could get caught. She has to stop, right now, or you will leave. And if she gets caught it will all be on her, but you don't want to be associated with it. So either she quits - or you do. Her choice - what's it going to be? But if she chooses you, she'd better be serious, because at the first sign of a relapse, you are out of there. 1
TaraMaiden Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 Oh God, I could never steal. I have a terrible problem with guilt, even when I'm doing the right thing. Yikes! You're fine!! 1
KaliLove Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 How is her home life? Are her parents ok? Do they treat her well? It's common for teenagers to act out when their lives at home are not going so well.
Haydn Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Bog standard teenage behaviour. Me and my mates used to spray paint luminous numbers on cats! Shocking! (Was a real mystery in the area at the time, local newspaper ran a story. The joys of being 14.
TaraMaiden Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Morrissey would NEVER do anything like that - he would probably When he killed the little kittens, Of the skin he made him mittens, Made them with the fur side inside, Made them with the skin side outside. He, to get the warm side inside, Put the inside skin side outside; He, to get the cold side outside, Put the warm side fur side inside. That's why he put the fur side inside, Why he put the skin side outside, Why he turned them inside outside. 1
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