kanga Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 I'm wondering what the peanut gallery thinks about the various ways to communicate with a person of interest or even who you are dating. I'm not talking about the getting-to-know-you stage. I'll start out. I think it's OK not to have actual phone calls all the time. To me, any of the methods are just as valid as the others. I have a friend who freak outs because the guy rarely calls, and chooses txt messaging and emails to communicate -- even though they still see each other. I think her idea about the significance of talking on the phone is really out-dated. I also think it has to do with the way men vs. women communicate. Women like to be chatty. Men are more to the point. It's easire to be chatty and go on forever while on the phone. Agree? Disagree?
Merin Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 This is funny to me.. My BF and I both have ONLY cell phones, no land line.. for the first time ever my BF went over his wireless minutes after he met me he had to add me for tmobile to tmobile so the minutes are not charged because of how much longer he speaks with me on the phone then he does with his boys. A few weekends ago he was giving me a hard time about how he communicates with his Boys then he does with me.. after observing this, it's so true.. EXAMPLE One.. one of his boys calls.. Josh see's who is calling on the ID. Josh~ "Hey ****bag/****er/dude whats up? Merin's here.. alright later" The entire convo is less than 2 minutes. EXAMPLE Two.. one of my gf's calls.. Merin see's who is calling on the ID. Merin~ "Hey Sista! How are you? I'm with Josh, what are you guys doing tonite?" The entire convo is at least 10 minutes. EXAMPLE Three.. one of his boys calls to hook up with us later in the night. Josh~ "Hey ****bag/****er/dude.. we're already in.. call me when you get inside, later" The entire convo again lasts less than 2 minutes and Josh is laughing that his boy has to wait outside in the cold. EXAMPLE Four.. one of my girls calls to hook up with us later in the night. Merin~ "Hey Girl! Damn it's cold outside uh? what are you wearing? want me to come down and see if I can get you in faster?" The entire convo last about 5 minutes and ends with me going to the door to see if I can get the door guy to let my girlfriend in as it's cold as a beeotch outside and she is dressed for summer. My BF isn't really a phone person.. but he does call me at least 3X a day if he hasn't stayed over with me.. OR he text messages me.. he doesn't use computers..so email isn't an option.. Would I be unhappy if I didn't talk to him in person or on the phone at least once a day.. honestly yeah I would be.. text is sometimes misunderstood or just seems impersonal IMO.. so thankfully although my BF isn't so much a "phone guy" he recognizes that it make me happy.. so he does it.
bluechocolate Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 A text message or an email can never replace the sound of a voice. The first two are simply letters on a screen, they could be from anyone. It is also much easier to misunderstand something someone has written (this has happened to me several times - mostly in a professional situation) than if you were actually speaking to someone. Having said that - I don't really like talking on the phone but I've learned to do it 'cause my family & many of my friends live 000's of miles away from me. Usually I'm just like "What do you want?", "Yeah, ok, bye". Pointless phone conversations drive me crazy - I have a friend who calls me a lot - she calls EVERYONE a lot, so it's not like I'm special, she just likes to talk & can't stand being alone. I don't like being used like that, perhaps I'm being a bad friend(?). Anyway, I would prefer to hear someones voice than receive a text message and I think that emails are more for sending pic's & stuff like that or for communicating with people who live a long way away. One last thing I can't stand - blanket text messages &/or emails (you know ones that people send to everyone in the address book?) - they make me feel real special , like "gee, thanks for thinking of me!".
alphamale Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Originally posted by kanga Agree? Disagree? makeing contact is making contact , no matter what the conduit. all the things listed below are ways of making contact or communicating with someone else: -smoke signals -colored flags (as on the high seas) -telephone -email -cablegram -touching -facial expressions and eye contact.
Merin Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale makeing contact is making contact , no matter what the conduit. all the things listed below are ways of making contact or communicating with someone else: -smoke signals -colored flags (as on the high seas) -telephone -email -cablegram -touching -facial expressions and eye contact. And let's not forget giving the finger as the ultimate form of "contact" and "communication"
emopunk Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Let's see... I talk on the phone with my fiance' a minumum of 5 times a day (total of about 2 hours,) im's for about 20 minutes a day, about 3 emails back and forth each, usually around 20 txt messages... I send her a card once a week, I spend at least two days a week with her. I'm the kind of guy who will do things like that. She loves it. It works for us. ....but she'd be really pissed if I didnt we didnt talk at least twice a day... but then im's would skyrocket.
startingover1028 Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 You know what they say.... "A wink is as good as a nod to a blind man" (Monty Python)
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