skela Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 How long does it take for you to know that you want to have an exclusive relationship with someone and ask them to stop dating other people. Also, is it typically the guy that asks.
Keenly Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 I'll know right after date one. It doesn't always have to be the man that asks. I'd be flattered if she asked me to not see other people, especially if I already liked her. I'd take her out that night. 2
Mrin Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 Usually pretty early for me. Date 4 or 5. I don't usually bring it up directly. It is usually around then we start to marvel at each other.
ctxinfl Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 Took me all of one week with my gf, though I knew I didn't want to see anyone else after the first date. After one week I told her I was taking down my OLD profile as I did not want to see anyone else.
Damaged217 Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 It usually takes about a month for me, personally. But there isn't necessarily a wrong time. It all depends on how much time you've been spending together and how into each other you seem. I would find it weird and uncomfortable if a guy asked me to be exclusive any sooner than 5 dates in. But that's just me. And, no, the man doesn't always have to ask, but a lot of women WILL wait for that to happen instead of doing it themselves. I know I sure do! But I will send out hints if I want to be exclusive.
somedude81 Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 Depends on the circumstances. If she's the only girl I've gone on a date with in the past 5 months, I'd want to be exclusive after the first date. Of course I wouldn't tell her that. I'd bring up exclusivity around date 3 or 4. If I'm going on dates with a few different women at the same time, I'd take a little longer to think about exclusivity.
Strength in Healing Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 I asked her at about the 4th date. Her initial reply is "so soon?!" but then she quickly said yes lol. We've been together since... I knew I wanted to be with her the first time we met, though. 1
Author skela Posted April 19, 2014 Author Posted April 19, 2014 When you become exclusive do you automatically take down your OLD profile?
TheNextLawyer Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 1 to 2 months for me. Depends on frequency I saw her etc.
J21 Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 (edited) When you become exclusive do you automatically take down your OLD profile? Well this would also be discussed if you both met via OLD while having that define the relationship talk. I wouldn't assume it was automatic just like you aren't assuming you're both exclusive. Edited April 19, 2014 by J21 1
JennHenn Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 1 to 2 months for me. Depends on frequency I saw her etc. I agree about the frequency thing. With the last bf I had, we saw each other a few times per week, and so exclusivity came within a few weeks. However, I met a guy about a month ago and we're nowhere near that yet. But we can only really see each other once per week, if it was more then things would probably be different.
preraph Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 You shouldn't ask someone to be exclusive to stop them from dating other people. You should wait until they're so focused on you, they don't WANT to date other people. For men, this can sometimes be never, but....in that case, don't make promises you can't keep. 1
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