Am I running away?

[forever_lost]

So I'm definitely still not over my ex. Life's moving on, but I still think about her and wonder what she's doing. I accidentally pressed the date button on my email client the other day and it reversed to earlier this year, when I wrote her a very well-written account of romance and reason that was met with...nothing. I don't cry anymore, but I nearly did then.

 

Anyways, I've recently found The Peace Corps and other international programs to be really appealing. It's not that I didn't before, but I really want to do these things now. What I can't figure out, though, is whether or not this is a subconscious way to run away from my problems and the breakup. I definitely associate my current location with the breakup, and find it hard to discipline myself in NC (currently nearing 2 months successfully). Am I just finding living in a developing country appealing because of these circumstances? Is two years too much of a time to commit to run away, and will I just be the same if I do something like this, just stuck in another country even more alone?

 

It's frightening and crippling when discipline breaks down. It truly is.

[barky2]

Go on a Vacation first.

 

Not that you're running away, more of making a on the spot decision.

 

It's like singing up for the military.

 

I know a girl who got out of a relationship and joined the navy.

 

She couldn't be happier.

 

But talk to family before even thinking about singing that dotted line.

 

Like I said, take a vacation first.

 

No problem in doing new things, I traveled a lot after my breakup.

 

But, a 2 year commitment, may be the right thing or the wrong.

 

You're family is your best asset right now.

 

 

 

Barky

[somegoodman]

Why not run away? You say it like its a bad thing. What do you gain from staying?

[Chi townD]

The Peace Corps is a noble thing to do. But, I have to tell you. As the new guy on the block, they're probably going to send you to the most disease ridden and politically unstable region in the world.

 

 

I would go with what Barky said. Take a trip somewhere. You wouldn't be running away. It would be you getting out of the norm and away from things that constantly remind you of her. Time away to re-energize and decompress.

[lauri]

Having worked and lived in different regions in the world, I can tell you that some people have a really hard time adjusting to a new life style and culture. But in my opinion, you should do it and help yourself grow and become a better person...but ultimately it is up to you. The truth is, you don't NEED to leave where ever you are from to get over your ex and change. All it really comes down to is you.

 

As of for leaving because of an ex, ironically one of my friends just recently did that to get over his ex girlfriend. In the end, he still is hung up on her and is actually reaching out to her 10x more because he is trying to find out if she even cares he left, if she wants him back etc. If you move abroad, you will most likely be so busy doing things and exploring that you will hardly have time to do this - but he is just working, has no friends and there is a huge language barrier for him...which is probably causing him to think a lot more and act the way he is.

 

I guess the whole point of my post is that the only way you will get over your ex is through you - the surroundings and country you live in are only a bi-product which can help enable you to heal faster / slower. To me, I think it really comes down to the person and how they are able to move on from things rather then the place they live.