Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Would you date a woman whose been single for more than 11 years? What questions would pop through your mind whose been single for that long? Would you be afraid of sexual compatablility? Would you think the woman was less desirable because of less sexual partners or relationship? Would you think it odd? Even if she was attractive? Would you be concerned that she wouldn't have a lot of relationship skills to enter in a relationship? Would it turn you off? Would she have too many " WALLS "? I've been that woman single for 11 years, entering into a relationship & scared as hell.
BradJacobs Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Would you date a woman whose been single for more than 11 years? What questions would pop through your mind whose been single for that long? Would you be afraid of sexual compatablility? Would you think the woman was less desirable because of less sexual partners or relationship? Would you think it odd? Even if she was attractive? Would you be concerned that she wouldn't have a lot of relationship skills to enter in a relationship? Would it turn you off? Would she have too many " WALLS "? I've been that woman single for 11 years, entering into a relationship & scared as hell. Embrace change or you risk it turning into year number twelve.
StanMusial Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Would you date a woman whose been single for more than 11 years? What questions would pop through your mind whose been single for that long? Would you be afraid of sexual compatablility? Would you think the woman was less desirable because of less sexual partners or relationship? Would you think it odd? a.)Even if she was attractive? b.)Would you be concerned that she wouldn't have a lot of relationship skills to enter in a relationship? Would it turn you off? Would she have too many " WALLS "? I've been that woman single for 11 years, entering into a relationship & scared as hell. If I liked her (and I were single).Why?No.No.Depends on her reason(s), because they could be odd reason(s).a.) No. b.) Plenty of people in relationships don't have "relationship skills".Depends, see answer 5.How could I possibly know that? 1
sillyanswer Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Would you date a woman whose been single for more than 11 years? "Have you been single for more than 11 years?" isn't something I'm likely to ask before the first date, so the simple answer to your question is "yes". Eventually I imagine this might come up in conversation, but I don't see why it should be a deal-breaker by itself. If the reasons why she's been single for 11 years are themselves, collectively or individually, deal-breakers then that would be the end of things.
Keenly Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Would you date a woman whose been single for more than 11 years? What questions would pop through your mind whose been single for that long? Would you be afraid of sexual compatablility? Would you think the woman was less desirable because of less sexual partners or relationship? Would you think it odd? Even if she was attractive? Would you be concerned that she wouldn't have a lot of relationship skills to enter in a relationship? Would it turn you off? Would she have too many " WALLS "? I've been that woman single for 11 years, entering into a relationship & scared as hell. Yes Why hasn't some guy locked you down yet No, not until we got that far No Odd yes, bad no Wouldn't bother me No, it would turn me on That's a question for her to answer, I'm not psychic
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 17, 2014 Author Posted April 17, 2014 Personally, I looked & looked & looked for years for and had casual sex two & half years to end the " weird celibate " thing... ( been a christian ) if guys were interested I'd freak out because I was use to being hurt. I'm giving this guy a chance because he's actually interested & it's such a relief when someone pursues you & in this case I mean me. Dating is a man's world, even if a guy isn't attractive, if he likes a girl & is persistent enough, he'll get the girl eventually. It's more important if the guy finds the girl more attractive 1
Keenly Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Personally, I looked & looked & looked for years for and had casual sex two & half years to end the " weird celibate " thing... ( been a christian ) if guys were interested I'd freak out because I was use to being hurt. I'm giving this guy a chance because he's actually interested & it's such a relief when someone pursues you & in this case I mean me. Dating is a man's world, even if a guy isn't attractive, if he likes a girl & is persistent enough, he'll get the girl eventually. It's more important if the guy finds the girl more attractive You have no idea what you have just done by saying this. I can hear the atom bomb incoming. That's not what its like at all.
Keenly Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 What do you mean? This forum has a lot of men, including myself, that struggle to get a woman. It really isn't that easy, and I am left unable to express this point in any other way other than saying its certainly not as easy as you made it sound. The difficulty you had for a decade is one men are just as likely to face. Just remember the stuff you listed are not deal breakers.
jonsnuh Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 (edited) 1. Yes. I'd wonder why. 2. I'd like to know why. 3. No, unless I have reason to. 4. No. People have claimed to save themselves up for marriage. 5. Maybe. Maybe not. 6. Every individual is different. 7. This is pretty subjective in defining "too little skills". But generally, no. 8. That's for her to know and for me to find out. I strongly think it's the insecurity that's going to put off guys. Don't let these things bother you and enjoy the ride. Lol. Dating is definitely not just a men's world. If it's anything I learned from my naivety, it's the fact that it's a woman's market. Freely ask a guy to have sex with you, and they likely will. Chances are, a woman would have had many offers from men if it was the opposite. Edited April 17, 2014 by jonsnuh
stillafool Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Personally, I looked & looked & looked for years for and had casual sex two & half years to end the " weird celibate " thing... ( been a christian ) if guys were interested I'd freak out because I was use to being hurt. I'm giving this guy a chance because he's actually interested & it's such a relief when someone pursues you & in this case I mean me. Dating is a man's world, even if a guy isn't attractive, if he likes a girl & is persistent enough, he'll get the girl eventually. It's more important if the guy finds the girl more attractive Where do you live?
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 17, 2014 Author Posted April 17, 2014 What do you mean? This is true. The nice guy may finish last but when he gets the girl, it works in his favour forever. As a woman, and after being rejected and hurt and abused and brushed aside ect... I'm grateful for any dating experience or guy interested. I'm grateful to any compliment or any date (where I don't have to pay). Immediate sexual attraction ( for a woman) is overrated. If an average guy gets a beautiful girl he's grateful for her and is respecting and honouring to her mainly because he knows he batted above his average. I'm just lucky that a guy likes me. After all it's been 11 years. No ones been able to prove I'm worth it or have value more than this guy, even though I'm afraid every day... at least I'm taking a risk. I just can't believe he actually likes me despite my time without a boyfriend!
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 17, 2014 Author Posted April 17, 2014 Where do you live? Haha new zealand sorry buddy!
jonsnuh Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 What do you mean? This is true. The nice guy may finish last but when he gets the girl, it works in his favour forever. As a woman, and after being rejected and hurt and abused and brushed aside ect... I'm grateful for any dating experience or guy interested. I'm grateful to any compliment or any date (where I don't have to pay). Immediate sexual attraction ( for a woman) is overrated. If an average guy gets a beautiful girl he's grateful for her and is respecting and honouring to her mainly because he knows he batted above his average. I'm just lucky that a guy likes me. After all it's been 11 years. No ones been able to prove I'm worth it or have value more than this guy, even though I'm afraid every day... at least I'm taking a risk. I just can't believe he actually likes me despite my time without a boyfriend! If there's anything I've learned, it's that there's never forever.
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