Has he lost interest? Did I come on too strongly?

[Theor]

On Sunday we went on our first date and things went well, but I’m afraid that I came off too strongly and scared him a bit. During the movie I laid my head on his shoulder (after making sure it was okay first) and he said it was and even adjusted himself to accommodate me more. Then on the ride home I reached over and grabbed his hand and he didn’t pull away and, again, adjusted himself so that holding hands was easier. He said multiple times that it was a fun night and he had a good time, and during the date he even insinuated hanging out again in the future.

 

But lately I feel like he’s been distant. The last time he talked to me was when he told me how his day went after I asked, saying it was cool but he’d had a headache all day. I sympathized with him and he didn’t respond so a couple of hours later I wrote: “well I hope you feel better tomorrow…goodnight.” And left it alone. He still hasn’t responded or said anything back and that was two days ago. This is a far cry from the past few weeks where we’d be talking on and off throughout the day, sometimes up until 2 in the morning after he got out of work.

 

Did I come off too strongly? I’m trying to give him space because I don’t want to seem overbearing. I really like this guy, but I feel like I’ve messed up big time in some way.

[mammasita]

WHOAH slow down. You went on your first date on Sunday, and your entire post reads like you've known him for weeks/months.

 

But lately I feel like he’s been distant

 

Lately? Its been 4 days. Relax, take a deep breath and occupy yourself. Don't get so caught up with this guy so soon. Take a step back and let him come to you.

[Zahara]

Personally, too much for me on a first date.

 

You were probably having more contact before you met because it was probably more exciting, there was that sense of anticipation, the mystery behind a computer screen/phone, etc.

 

Then when you finally meet the person face to face it brings about a sense of reality.

 

Don't compare the pre-date to post-date. Two different scenarios.

 

Honestly, I don't think he's very interested. The only thing you can do here is step away and let him come to you.

[atlg8r]

I don't know that you moved too fast for sure. But you need to slow down NOW! It was one date. Sure, you may have had a good time and feel attraction, but you can't possibly know him well enough yet to REALLY like him and know you want to be in a relationship.

 

Just chalk it up to a fun date, a nice guy you're attracted to and someone you'd like to know more if he asked you out. Otherwise, keep living your life. If he is interested in seeing you again and getting to know you more, he will contact you.

[MidwestUSA]

This is another case of a 'relationship' being built up too early based on contact that isn't face to face. Get that first date out of the way quickly next time, rather than corresponding for weeks and compiling expectations of someone you haven't even met.