sooshi Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 ... watch this clip. It's less than two minutes long. Background: After years of chasing after Laura like a puppy dog, despite her constant mistreatment of him, Steve Urkel finally puts her in her place. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ukH_g_HMonk&noredirect=1 I'm having a hard night, reflecting on my own situation. Shifting between blaming myself for the way I responded towards my ex-fiance pursuing my best friend (and being upset with my friend for not calling him out on his behaviour) and being angry with them. They tell me that I've been the one causing drama. I think it's reasonable to be upset with my friend for not standing up for me. I also think it's reasonable to feel hurt that she told me I was causing drama when I asked why she kept him on FB (when she has deleted guys in the past for showing her unwanted attention, and even after he deleted me on there). She was supposed to be my best friend! I didn't think I was causing drama. I also think it's reasonable to want to block your ex-fiance who actively pursues your best friend (who they've never met and hardly ever communicated with) because he and I were still friends, and I didn't think that I was being respected or that my feelings were being considered at all. I would've been more understanding if his intentions were made known to me before his pursuit of her. Now I feel like saying that maybe I'm wrong to feel this way, that it really IS my fault, but you guys have my back and help me see more clearly. I continue to struggle sometimes with this. Thinking that they're both upset with me, that maybe it really is my fault. But surely it is not, and that I only think so because I've been such a doormat and have justified their actions time and time again? In the end, we deserve to be treated better. We've given so much. For some of us, it's been years of doing our best to be the best of friends we could be. And we've let things go that we wouldn't let go if we truly respected and loved ourselves. I shouldn't blame myself for blocking and having my friend block my ex-fiance and angering/hurting him. You guys made me realize that it was a reasonable reaction, to blick. Still, that power that he has held over the years finds its way back to me sometimes. Times like tonight. Let's stand up for ourselves. Just because someone knows we love them with all our heart and they don't love us back, it doesn't give them the right to treat us like dirt. We deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. Let's allow ourselves to be treated that way, starting with making choices that show ourselves love and respect.
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