Frank2thepoint Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 Well this sucks, NYC has 5 extra single men per 1000 singles between the ages of 30 and 39. Guess I'm going to have to get a blow-up doll and hope I make it to my 50s.
Author kaylan Posted April 16, 2014 Author Posted April 16, 2014 Look on the bright side Kaylan - there are a TON of single women aged 50-65 everywhere RAWR :(:(:(:(
joystickd Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 :(:(:(:( Things like this only take into account a certain population of women. I take it the ones most frequently see. It's like going to a college you have the women most see everyday and then ones you see every once and a while. Essentially there are probably lots of women than this thing probably says. Most men tend to focus on the frequently seen ones.
dichotomy Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 (edited) The New, Interactive Singles Map. Ugh...For men in their 20s and 30s, that map makes me feel more than I already do, how much of a challenge itll be to find a high quality chick I click with. Like damn...when you click to see the absolute values, its daunting how much guys outnumber women. And while Im not sure if this data counts gay men and lesbian women...I dont think theres enough of them to shrink those numbers as much as Id like. But I dunno...its just like...wow. Ive always felt finding a great chick was rare...but jeez...now Im wondering when I will ever find someone Id want to date seriously again. Oh wells. Bachelor fo' life lolz. Just wait - it will eventually turn in your favor. Gents: Single men become a rare commodity later in life due to our unfortunate propensity for dying. If you can get to 50 the world seems to be nothing but women. Ladies: After your mid-40's, you will be fighting tooth and nail for the nine or ten remaining single men. Edited April 16, 2014 by dichotomy 2
Phoe Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 I think there are small pockets within areas that will deviate from the norm within that area on a map. I live in Southern California. A map will tell you there are more single men than women here. But I live in a small valley in the desert of Southern California. There are definitely more single women here than men.
Imported Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Have you considered women outside of the USA? I don't mean like a mail-order-bride. Lots of very attractive women south of the USA, that are also very nice and respectable. If you have the means or can set yourself into a job that provides you the oppertunity to intermix on the regular outside of America....you should. I am half-asian and almost never date Asian women. I never got to stay in Japan, but occasianally have lay-overs there. I love hearing the voice of some of the Japanese women. I have no idea what they are saying, but :love:. So sexy. I am trying to take the Japan trips away from the other guy that is a trip grabber like me. I really want to meet Japanese women (Not Japanese-American.....unless they are fresh-off-the-boat). And it is not just because there are a lot of Japanese men becoming "A-sexual". I have only gone out on one date with a Japanese girl and she was a very interesting girl. It was a shame I only had the one day left in Guam.
Eggplant Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 A small but not insignificant portion of old men are coupled with young women. For every such couple that leaves one young man and one old woman single, unless those two get together. This phenomenon is able to happen today much more than yesterday because of the ease of divorce. An older man can divorce and be single again and take away a 2nd young woman out of the market. It's serial polygamy. 2
Imported Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 A small but not insignificant portion of old men are coupled with young women. For every such couple that leaves one young man and one old woman single, unless those two get together. This phenomenon is able to happen today much more than yesterday because of the ease of divorce. An older man can divorce and be single again and take away a 2nd young woman out of the market. It's serial polygamy. Good point. I do know a few guys that married, divorced and married again to women that have never been married both times. The women at my work that married, divorce and marry again usually end up with a divorced guy the second time around (think it's just two that I know of). I am a single guy, but I see lots of avaiable women and it is not a difficult thing to pair up with them for a time. As for marriage, many times I am not sure what I am missing there. It looks like a job promotion where I get a whole lot more responsibility and problems. Anything that goes wrong is my fault. "Free time" to do as I please becomes a thing of the past. Not only do I not get a pay increase for this, but more than likely a pay decrease with a possibility of even worse financial liabilities on down the line. Other times I think nothing else matters and I need to move forward.
Under The Radar Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Don't forget to put the "porn star laying on the beach" mudflaps and the hanging testicles on the rear bumper for the full effect... TFY This is hilarious and put quite the visual in my head - LOL.
RedRobin Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Just wait - it will eventually turn in your favor. Gents: Single men become a rare commodity later in life due to our unfortunate propensity for dying. If you can get to 50 the world seems to be nothing but women. Ladies: After your mid-40's, you will be fighting tooth and nail for the nine or ten remaining single men. The crop of men maturing now will likely find that social conditions have changed by the time they reach 50. Considering the fact that women are currently outpacing them in college diplomas.... ... and besides, when did any attractive woman need to fight tooth and nail to get sex? The premise only holds water if those same women want to get married... and not all of the do.
iris219 Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Just wait - it will eventually turn in your favor. Gents: Single men become a rare commodity later in life due to our unfortunate propensity for dying. If you can get to 50 the world seems to be nothing but women. Ladies: After your mid-40's, you will be fighting tooth and nail for the nine or ten remaining single men. This is true, but it doesn't happen until closer to 70. My mom just moved into a retirement community and it's mostly single women in their 60s, 70s, and 80s. There are very few men. There's this one old man that all the women love. He's very overweight, doesn't put in his false teeth, AND he's married. They all talk about how they wish he wasn't married! (Not my mom, thank god.) He would clean up if he was single. 2
veritas lux mea Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Just move to Canada. We have higher taxes, higher food costs, colder winters (though southern BC weather is better than a lot of states), we don't all have that really weird accent they have on the east coast, medical is free you just have to wait a few years for anything important, and even are conservative government is more liberal than you guys. Haven't met a girl who doesn't wish her husband was black. And the thought of escaping the cold north to head south is appealing enough to marry anyone! You could combine cultural perks and get rid of what you don't like. In all seriousness two very good friends of mine in the past five years married american chicks. How do you like that for stealing even more of your few "quality women". Poached them right out from Under you... Not literaly. Hopefuly not literaly.
Author kaylan Posted April 17, 2014 Author Posted April 17, 2014 (edited) A small but not insignificant portion of old men are coupled with young women. For every such couple that leaves one young man and one old woman single, unless those two get together. This phenomenon is able to happen today much more than yesterday because of the ease of divorce. An older man can divorce and be single again and take away a 2nd young woman out of the market. It's serial polygamy. And cougars dont date young men? People ignore how often this really happens. And though Im open to dating older women casually, for something serious I prefer women my age. Edited April 17, 2014 by kaylan
Eggplant Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 I am a single guy, but I see lots of avaiable women and it is not a difficult thing to pair up with them for a time. As for marriage, many times I am not sure what I am missing there. It looks like a job promotion where I get a whole lot more responsibility and problems. Anything that goes wrong is my fault. "Free time" to do as I please becomes a thing of the past. Not only do I not get a pay increase for this, but more than likely a pay decrease with a possibility of even worse financial liabilities on down the line. Other times I think nothing else matters and I need to move forward. The one time in my life when I was madly in love, I wanted very badly to become one with the man, and I felt a devotion and willingness to sacrifice my independence towards a future with him. I believe he felt the same. The love/infatuation makes you lose your mind, and makes you care only about living for the other person. It sounds as though this kind of feeling is not anything like what you have with any women you find. If you're not excited about it, then you definitely shouldn't do it. I personally prefer my alone time unless I find somebody I love deeply. I'm an introvert, and my freedom and space mean too much to me to compromise for anything less. This is a little off topic -- sorry. 1
EasyHeart Posted April 18, 2014 Posted April 18, 2014 I know it's tempted to blame dating problems on population skews, but this map makes absolutely no sense. The only place I've heard where men significantly outnumber women to the point where dating is difficult is Silicon Valley, and even there people seem to manage just fine.Wait. Are you suggesting that people take responsibility for their own problems? That's crazy! CRAZY!!! 1
Eggplant Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 Uh, I'm pretty sure that map is total BS. I changed the conditions to singles between 25 and 39, and according to that map there are 17 more men in my city than women on average. According to our city demographics from 2010, 49.7% of the population in the city is female, and 50.4% of the state is female. And it makes absolutely no sense that there would be more male singles than females if the demographics are more or less 1-to-1, unless we're claiming there are way more gay women than gay men. And look at New York City on your map! That place is notorious for being single-female-heavy, and yet it claims there are 4 single men in the age group I selected than women. I know it's tempted to blame dating problems on population skews, but this map makes absolutely no sense. The only place I've heard where men significantly outnumber women to the point where dating is difficult is Silicon Valley, and even there people seem to manage just fine. First of all you're assuming everybody is dating people in their same age range. Second of all, this map doesn't show anything drastic. The discrepancies are very small. A bunch of blue circles only means a very marginal difference.
suladas Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 An extra 20 people per 1000? So 2 f*cking percent? Anyone who thinks they will notice the difference in that amount of single people is crazy (maybe why they are single ) 1
TouchedByViolet Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 I think you are looking at the problem wrong. Lets assume that there are roughly equal numbers of single male and females for a moment. The problem is that single women in their 20's are being pursued by men in their 20's, 30's and 40's! So its like a 3:1 ratio... for a guy in his 20s
RedRobin Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 I think you are looking at the problem wrong. Lets assume that there are roughly equal numbers of single male and females for a moment. The problem is that single women in their 20's are being pursued by men in their 20's, 30's and 40's! So its like a 3:1 ratio... for a guy in his 20s Not really. Most women in their 20's don't want men in their 40's or anything close to it. They might date a guy in his 30's if he is particularly commitment minded... but even that isn't easy for them. Most women prefer men close to their age.
joystickd Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 The South should be cut off from the nation entirely. There's a reason why rent is dirt cheap down there and why things cost less down there: no one wants to live there. The South does have some beauty for sure but in general, it's just a place that's better off taken off of the nation. People from the South want to secede from the Union. Go ahead, go ahead and try that **** again. Don't come crying to us when a country attacks and destroys everything. The Northeast is racist as well and is infact even more segregated than the South but it is a hell of a lot more progressive. It's terrible to talk crap about an area because of a few idiots. You have quite a few progressive areas in the South. Most of the people that scream secede are so few and actually are in the rural areas. It's not all Deliverance or Mississippi Burning. People in the South are just more open and honest about their opinions than people anywhere else. Northeast is that much better. People just hide their opinions for the sake of not being judged.
normal person Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 Small towns would be the way to go This is terrible advice in my opinion. He should go to where there's the largest agglomeration of people (and consequently, women) -- to a city. How many single women in there 20s are going to be in a small town? Not many. If you don't like any of those two dozen, you're out of luck. Increase your odds by putting yourself in the closest proximity to the most single women, it's not rocket science. You don't like the first girl you meet? No worries, there are a thousand more. Well this sucks, NYC has 5 extra single men per 1000 singles between the ages of 30 and 39. Guess I'm going to have to get a blow-up doll and hope I make it to my 50s. Joking aside, NYC has got to be the easiest place in the US to be a single guy. There are young, beautiful, single women everywhere you turn. Go to any bar in the East Village or LES on a Friday or Saturday night and you'll meet someone. I know it's anecdotal, but I've lived in LA and I absolutely did not encounter single women with the same frequency that I do here. Single women were like a mirage in LA, in New York there is seemingly a surplus. Consider NYC OP, I can't say enough good things about it. That map doesn't tell the whole story. 1
Author kaylan Posted April 21, 2014 Author Posted April 21, 2014 I grew up in NYC, and live in the burbs not too far away now. Ive considered moving back, but its not likely at the moment.
RedRobin Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 ... and ladies, consider moving OUT of NY or never putting down roots here in the first place if you are looking for a partner or even quality dates. Trust me... it s*cks here big time.
Revolver Posted April 21, 2014 Posted April 21, 2014 A lot of single men and women call themselves single while actively sleeping with someone else on the side
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