How should I approach this guy? To let him know I'm open and interested?

[clynn]

There is a handsome fellow I've known as an acquaintance and who works in the same business that I do, so I see him periodically.

 

I am younger than him, by at least 10 years and likely more (up to 15 I guess). And he has children and is separated from his long time partner (they were never married).

 

There has been some flirtation between the two of us - I sense there is mutual attraction. Though I suspect he might be cautious about pursuing anything as I am younger and don't have similar experiences as him (never have even cohabitated with someone nor had children). This does not phase me, I am interested in pursuing a friendship and who knows, maybe more.

 

Wouldn't it be great if I could invite him to invite me out for coffee or a drink?

 

How to get him to invite me out?

[Merin]

IMO the FIRST thing to find out is about the seperation from his mate.. although they may not be married, they do have children together.. and just because they are seperated this isn't the same thing as broken..

 

He may be more cautious about getting into anything with anyone regardless of age or life experience at this time IF his seperation is fairly new or there are plans to possibly reconcile.

[clynn]

I'm definitely not interested in someone who is in an ongoing of/off relationship, that's for sure! Or if there is potential.

 

I guess to really determine this it would take getting to know him better.

 

In the past I dated someone who assured me it was over, so over with his ex but then after time I discovered it wasn't so over. There wasn't a way for me to really tell this but by spending time with him. Truth is I don't think he was lying, I just don't think he knew.

 

What I know in this case, they've been split for approx. 2 years. And from all accounts it is over, over. But of course, shared children means an ongoing relationship....

 

Good points.

 

Thanks for the feedback.